By the nature of its side effects, cancer treatment can make a private battle a very public affair. For a woman with cancer, having a bald head, pale skin or a missing breast can make her feel like she's being targeted by a bright spotlight and a banner that says, "Cancer patient."
But now more than ever, there are resources for women that will put the spotlight back on their work, their accomplishments and their life—and change that banner to simply read, "Woman."
In HOwell and neighboring towns, multiple stores are currently selling products that can help woman battling cancer feel differently on the inside and out. Freehold Raceway Mall stores like Bare Esceentuals, Sephora, and Nordstroms, are selling breast cancer awareness makeup. Makeovers with the purchase of the makeup are available. Nordstorms is also currently selling "Awareness" lingerie. For women in the market for wigs, Annoited Hands Beauty Salon in Freehold Borough can help select the perfect wig for each woman.
Girl on the Go provides private or in-home wig consultations for women with cancer, with locations in 12 states, including Connecticut, Florida, Georgia, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, New Jersey, North and South Carolina, Pennsylvania, Rhode Island and Wisconsin.
Breast cancer survivor Sheril Cohen started the business after her own struggles with hair loss that were matched only by the frustrating process of getting a wig.
"Wig shopping was awful," Cohen shares on her website. "[The attendant] tried to sell me this wig. I thought it was a cute cut, but I thought it made me older and unattractive. I cried. I felt sexy with my long hair. With this wig on I felt like a suburban fortysomething-year-old soccer mom. I was successful, single, a thirtysomething NYC woman. I wanted to retain me—not become someone I did not recognize."
Now Cohen proudly sells wigs of all kinds—synthetic, hybrid, human hair—to women all over the country, providing, as one of her clients says, privacy.
"I felt so like myself in my wig," said Ellen, a client. "No one knew. People who knew I had been diagnosed but did not know much else used to come up to me at events and ask when I was going to start chemo or if I had chosen a doctor yet. I did not have to tell anyone anything I did not want to tell them."
As women in chemotherapy treatment discover, hair loss isn't limited to their locks. It means no eyebrows, no eyelashes and, as Cohen points out, one bright spot—no shaving.
Women can visit a lash studio to get back that feminine flutter of the lashes, and maybe even amp up their look with a few sexy, extra-long lash extensions.
There also resources online for women who have had surgery during treatment. KA Mastectomy Bras and Apparel, started by survivor Kimberly Ashmand, features pretty and practical bras tailored to the unique needs of survivors, as well as some with a little lace and sparkle to help women feel sexy again.
Ceylone Boothe Grooms of Morganville said positivity should be in every survivor, and part of that is feeling beautiful inside and out.
When a client comes to Grooms she's often lost the characteristics of outward beauty that once made her feel strong and feminine. Gone are her eyelashes and the natural glow in her complexion. She may have lost one or both breasts in her battle and now deals with a feeling of being less of a woman.
To that woman, Grooms says, "Let's focus on what you have and not what you feel you've lost," as she goes about pointing out her clients uniquely beautiful facial features.
Adopting a new look during treatment is about more than simply feeling good for the moment—it can be another weapon in a woman's arsenal against cancer, giving her a deep well of positivity to sustain her.
By the time her clients (those fighting cancer and those just going about life) leave her chair, Grooms says, they all say they feel the same thing,"There's nothin' I couldn't do."
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