Jul 30, 2014
Mostly Cloudy

I am the Anti-Abercrombie & Fitch

The world is full of soft, round, curvy women who need to be proud of how they look. And one way to do that is to have clothes that fit your size and your style.

By now, most of you have seen the YouTube video of the man who's buying up A&F clothes from thrift stores and handing them out to homeless people. I heartily agree with his effort to destroy the brand of a CEO who has the nerve to tell people they are too ugly or too fat to work in his stores or wear his clothes. There are enough of us out there with damaged body-images. No neet to create more!

I am among the soft, curvy, round women in the world who object to being classed as "not cool." I hate seeing big, beautiful women schlepping around in clothes that look like sacks because they couldn't find anything that fit. That's one of the reasons I started sewing and designing clothes. And I got good at it!

I run a small custom clothing and costume business and many of my clients are large women looking for something special. I have fit just about every figure type with the exception of the "American Ideal." She exists only in the heads of most of the media and fashion designers of the world.

My favorite moment in the design & sewing process is when a client looks in the mirror and sees how beautiful she is. It really does happen. I sewed a dress for a bridesmaid who weighed close to 300 pounds. When she tried on the under-dress (there were several layers of chiffon going on top of it), her eyes got wide, she smiled and squealed, "I don't look like a tube of red lipstick. I have a shape!" She had never worn anything that fit correctly.

That's not a singular occurance. It's happened a good number of times in my almost 8 years of professional sewing. And it's the best part of my job.

So, don't let the BS get you down. You are beautiful just the way you are. Choose clothes that fit your figure. Don't try to squeeze yourself into something that's too small for the sake of "fashion." Look at yourself in the mirror and figure out what shape you are. A pear, an apple, a rectangle, an hourglass? Do you have broad shoulders and narrow hips? Generous hips and no bust? No curves at all? There's nothing wrong with any of those shapes.

Do your homework. There is plenty of information out there about dressing for your shape. And I'll be blogging about that in the future, too. But don't be too addicted to the rules. Sometimes you get a great look by breaking them! Or consider having clothes made for you or altered professionally. It makes all the difference in the world!

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