Talking to Children About the Natural Disaster in Japan

All of us have heard about the recent earthquake and tsunami that have devastated Japan.  There have been sad images of frightened adults, children and of land destroyed by the natural disaster. 

It is not likely that your school-age children are unaware of this tragedy.  So the question of whether or not to talk to your children about it has already been answered.  If they have some information, it is important that you as a parent make sure they have the correct information.  Additionally, you will want to help calm their new fears about what could happen to them.

I found several good websites with valid information about talking with children.  The following are a combination of the recommendations from the National Center for School Crisis and Bereavement and my own thoughts:

• Start the conversation by asking your children if they have heard about the disaster.  Ask questions about what they may have heard at school, from their friends or through the media.  This will help you to know what they are feeling and thinking.
• Provide accurate information if what they think they have heard is incorrect or blown out of proportion.  Of course, we do know that this disaster has had horrendous effects, with many lives lost.  However, we do not know that such a disaster is imminent here in California or that our families are not safe right now.  Children can be assured that you, as their parents, will do everything in your power to keep them safe.  Review plans that you have previously made for your family in the event of a crisis.  For example: “We have stored some food and water for an emergency.”  Or “If there was an earthquake when you were at school, we would want you to wait at school with your teacher, and Mom or Dad would be there as soon as possible to pick you up.”  Remind your children that most of us have never had to personally deal with a situation where streets were blocked, buildings were destroyed and parents had difficulty reaching their children.  Even so, telling your child, “We have a plan so that you will be safe,” will help to ease their fears.  In the true event of a crisis, they would hopefully be around caring people who will take care of them, people who have a safety net in place for them.
• Help those in need!  Japan is in need of safe water, food, blankets and medical supplies.  Perhaps your children would like to take on a project to help raise money for the families.  Would they like to include a picture with their donation?  Drawing often helps children to express their feelings and let others know that someone cares.  Contact your local Boy Scouts or Girl Scout organizations, churches, the Red Cross or other nonprofits for more information about donating time or money. 
• Be patient with your children.  In times of stress, children may have difficulty with concentration or behavior.  Helping them to understand their reactions may help ease their fears.  Consult your pediatrician for additional advice if you feel your child’s reactions are more serious.
• For more information: Look online.