Saying Yes to Myself! What does it mean and how do I do it?

Saying Yes to Myself! What does it mean and how do I do it?

1. Stop your negative thoughts
1. Imagine a red stop sign
2. Tell yourself no
3. Do something different or get up and move
2. Replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts
1. Use Positive affirmations
2. Ask a friend about your qualities
3. Journal the negative thoughts to put them somewhere and replenish with positive thoughts
3. Even if you struggle believing the positive thoughts, say them anyway!
1. Practice saying “I’m awesome, amazing, beautiful, successful”
2. Write down your strengths and skills
3. Accept that your family may have built in mistaken beliefs that ARE NOT TRUE!
4. Say things to yourself that a best friend would say
1. Remind yourself of a friend who gives great advice
2. What would they say?
3. Be gentle with yourself
5. Expect to fail and make mistakes, this is ok, and helpful.
1. Failure and mistakes are inevitable!
2. Push ahead boldly
3. Face fear and breath through it
4. You are more powerful than you think
6. Whenever you feel negative emotions, use them as an opportunity for clarity (something isn’t working).
1. The heart of anger is sadness
2. What is missing?
3. What do you need?
7. Remember the oxygen mask metaphor
1. If you pass out, none of your constant caregiving will continue…
2. If you care for yourself first you can be a 150% person to everyone else
3. You are first
8. Say Yes to yourself (this means you are saying no to other commitments)
1. Set healthy boundaries (this is a skill)
2. This means saying yes to yourself and no to other things
3. Let yourself have what you need, want, and desire
4. Care for yourself the way you would a child
9. Let go of the shoulds, coulds, what ifs, and cant’s
1. These will be here (life naturally creates them, don’t reproduce more)
2. Limitations are only motivations
3. Use your identified strengths and skills from step 3
10. Breath your way through it (breathing is a constant process of accepting and letting go)
1. Breath in until you can’t hold your breath anymore
2. Accept that you have to exhale
3. Let go
4. Repeat