Accepting Help Doesn't Mean You Are Helpless—Just Human

You know that saying about hindsight always being 20-20?  Well, I wish I would have really paid attention to that when I was living through my Single Mom Syndrome Journey.  But instead I was too proud to be human and let people in who honestly cared about me and the well-being of my daughter.

I thought that accepting help made me helpless and I didn't like that.

I am not sure if it is genetically born into women, but we sure seem to carry the world on our shoulders even if no one asks us to.  For you Single Moms out there I have some simple advice that you might find difficult to take, but trust me it will enrich your life.

When well-meaning friends and family offer their help to you, TAKE IT. Don't think about it, don't hesitate and for goodness sake don't let your pride get in the way.  Just TAKE THEIR HELP. Simple enough right?  I wish.  Like I said, as women we feel like we have shoulders of steel and that no weight is too heavy to carry on them, but thats not true and deep down I think we all know it.

No one expects us to be Super Woman and do everything alone.  No one but us. Seriously, is that how you treat and view your friends?  Do you think them weak and worthless if they can't handle something without help?  Does that make them less human?  I think not.

Your friends and family watch you struggle, and survive through your Single Mom Syndrome Journey everyday.  I'm sure if they could they would wave a magic wand and make everything in your life perfect, but they can't, so they want to do somethng.  LET THEM.  Take them up on their offer of whatever it is they want to do and Thank them from the bottom of your heart and give them a huge hug.  They aren't judging you, they just want to help you.

It speaks volumes to how much they respect and admire you.  It means they truly care about you and your children.  They accept the fact that you are human and can't or shouldn't do everything alone.

It takes a strong person to accept a gift from the heart of a friend, even if pushing them away because of empty pride seems easier to do.  It means you are blessed with a Circle of Life who honestly care about you.  How lucky is that?

Think about it.  And remember you too can make that difference in the life of another Single Mom.  Reach out and offer something from your heart to help her out.  You just might enrich her life as well as yours.

Remember to stand tall, breathe and smile.  You are doing an Amazing job because you choose to raise your children.  Be Proud.