How to Nourish Your Family without Starving Yourself

Are you a card carrying sandwiched boomer on an economic roller coaster, like so many of us today? As you face these tough times with the challenges of parents growing older and kids growing up, don't forget to nurture you. Because if you get run down, who will care for your family in flux?

Whether you're dealing with a painful financial crisis and housing issues or adjusting to a job loss and changes in your identity, expect a cascade of strong feelings - anxiety, the desire to hold on, resentment, frustration, sadness, even despair. These emotions are common and normal. But you can find the courage that will help you move forward.

The past is prologue. Think about how you can prepare for what lies ahead. As you look back, what has helped you handle major changes before? Make a list and assess what has worked. Then take the most effective strategies from those experiences and, once again, apply them to the issues today. Trying to keep a positive attitude will motivate you to stay on track.

Find something to believe in. What gives you strength - a spiritual path, strong faith, belief in yourself? Look at the ways you can continue to build on your internal and external assets. Evaluate your character strengths and how they benefit you in other circumstances. Are you fiercely curious and determined to find a solution, no matter what? Discover information about a caregiver program, a debt support group, tough love seminars. These community resources will help you make decisions about the specifics of your problems.

Recognize the importance of support. When you are facing a difficult time, find a role model who encourages you. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help. Talking with others can clarify your needs as you work through difficult changes. Having the objective opinion of a family therapist or life coach will provide you with further insight and direction.

Don't forget the beauty of the Marina we live in. Take a walk on the beach and enjoy the sunshine. Or appreciate the sunset right outside your door. As you take a step back, you'll see the situation from a different perspective. And listening to your inner voice will help you focus on what's important. Just put one foot in front of the other and you'll eventually get to where you want to be.