As people are immersed in the spirit of the holidays - lively decorations, shopping for friends and family, holiday music, parades and parties, there are those of us who are feeling the effects of heartache. Maybe the event was recent, or maybe years ago - it really doesn't matter. What matters is how you are feeling in the present moment. For some it's a consistent feeling of sadness. For others there might have been a trigger, a reminder of a loved one who is no longer by your side. One moment, everything is fine, and the next you may find yourself thinking about your loved one and overcome by a feeling of sadness.
Whatever the situation you are facing today, it's not something we like going through. But grief is a normal and natural part of life - part of being a human being. If we didn't have feelings, we would walk around the earth like robots never experiencing sadness and grief. And we would never experience joy, happiness and love.
Many years ago, there was a movie called, "The Stepford Wives." Women were made to be physically beautiful. Yet they lived a life of emptiness - no feelings, just a robotic existence.
Our society is bombarded with programs and products to "look" beautiful with guarantees that you will live life happily ever after. How is that any different from being a "Stepford" wife, pretty on the outside, unresolved issues on the inside?
Heartache is an opportunity to beautify yourself from the inside out. Heartache is not permanent. It's an opportunity to become fully alive and ultimately live a better life.
Irene Stafford
Transformational Life Coach
www.fromheartachetohappiness.com
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