Relationships - what would life be without them? They are often our greatest teachers. We go through life "looking" for that perfect soul mate and when we think we've found our match, life happens. Maybe you've experienced a separation or divorce, maybe even more than one. Or maybe after spending what seemed like a lifetime together, your loved one died.
Disappointment, sadness, anger, bitterness and resentment are all common feelings. So what do you do with the feelings you are experiencing? How do you process major life transitions that have happened to you?
Did you think you would just forget, move on and leave your old life and the person you were involved with behind? Were you told there are plenty of fish in the sea and think that finding a new partner would solve all your problems?Well, it doesn't quite work that way.
After the end of a relationship, love doesn't die. There are memories you created together that last a lifetime. When you are able to release any anger or resentment and embrace self-forgiveness for the judgments you placed on the other person and yourself, your heart opens wide to feel the blessings of the experience. Self-Forgiveness is one of the most valuable tools you can have in your toolbox for life.
It's not about forgiving the other person for what they did or didn't do. They don't have to be present for you to heal your own inner wounds. It's about you taking responsibility for your own feelings and resolving the conflict you have within. You're not condoning what they may or may not have done but rather releasing yourself from the judgments you placed on their actions.
When you carry anger in your heart, who is the person who is hurt by the anger? The other person may not even know that you are angry. Yet after holding onto the anger and resentment, you may notice you are developing physical symptoms (high blood pressure, anxiety, migraines etc.). Isn't it time to let go?
The holidays are just around the corner. Give yourself and your loved ones the gift of Self-Forgiveness. You'll be glad you did and the people around you will feel the positive effects.
Irene Stafford
Transformational Life Coach
www.staffordlifecoaching.com
www.fromheartachetohappiness.com