Get Over It !

Holding a grudge? Get Over it.

I have what I call my mantra: Stay positive, stay flexible and have a sense or humor; affect what you can affect. 

That does not mean I do that. It just means I try to do that. That said, when I do not think before I react, I hear my wife’s voice: "Get over it!"

It’s got to be unhealthy. It’s something many people do including myself.  Something happens, someone says something, you see something you don’t like, you overreact. I overreact and what good does it do? All people handle different situations differently.

We humans are individuals. Our thoughts are formed based on news, good or bad. Our thoughts are formed on our exposure to life, to factors within and outside of our control so self analysis and thinking through what has influenced how we have reacted can contribute toward how each of us react without thinking.

Recognizing that it happens in different ways to all individuals and how we respond to situations, does that mean we can change? Perhaps a little, just moderately, but the knee-jerk reaction to situations, in my judgment, is part of the human condition that can only be addressed if, before we react, we take a deep breath.

I doubt, however, with a lifetime of being entrenched in how we react, whether we can change. So, when I am told “get over it” can I? I can try, I can try, I can try, and self analysis helps, but I won’t count the chickens until they are all back in their cage.

Get over it.