It Is What It Is

In everyday life, there are so many issues that most of us can not influence so we tend to throw our hands in the air and say, "It is what it is."

Now that phase is used so often it has become a cliché.

It is perfectly okay to say that from time to time but it is also a phase to give permission to the person saying it, to be able to wash their hands of responsibility. That is not okay.

We all have responsibilities - family, employers, friends, animals and family pets.  Those responsibilities show our friends and others the type of character we have. They project our values, if we are honest, and if we are a caring person and also, if we take our responsibilites seriously.

The suggestion I have if you have filled your responsibilities is to say "It is what I have done" and than follow up with "It is what it is."  (Sorry, I seem to remember from school, generations ago, that you are not supposed to end a sentence with a preposition, but it is what it is.)

It certainly is true there are things that we have no influence over and we need to have something we can say when that happens. So, if the cliché fits, use it and that is okay.  If the cliché fits, go out and buy a new pair of shoes that do fit.

It is what it is!