Discussing Tragedies With Your Child

After the horrendous earthquake and tsunami in Japan, the graphic images of houses being washed away and survivors speaking about their harrowing experiences flooded all media outlets. It’s difficult to shield your child from the television news coverage and everyone’s overall reactions to the events that have unfolded.

The question of how to discuss and treat this delicate subject with a young child is something I’ve struggled with a bit. On one hand, I don’t believe that I should withhold the truth and not expose my daughter to some of the harsh realities of natural disasters. On the other hand, watching the footage for too long may frighten a child who doesn’t necessarily understand what has happened.

I’ve found that talking with Kaila beforehand, even if its months before an event occurs, helps her to be prepared so she knows what to expect. I chose to discuss the situation with my daughter frankly yet simply. A child may not have any reaction to the images on television, but they will definitely react to parents’ emotions.

Be brief and reassuring. I told her there was a big earthquake in Japan that caused a huge wave afterwards. I explained that although Japan is far away from us, we also have earthquakes from time to time here in California. I then went on to stress the importance of being prepared. Even small children should know the basics of what to do in an emergency. I’ve been teaching her how to dial 911 and helping her memorize our address and phone number.

She told me that in school, they have had fire and earthquake drills. I asked her to tell me what she has to do and she explained that when she hears the alarm, she crouches under the table and protects her neck and head. After the teachers say it’s all clear, they line up and go outside. I reinforced the significance of the drills she learned, and went over the basics of what to do at home as well while trying not to sound too scary.

If you have an infant or child under 2-years old, he or she probably will not comprehend what the images on the news mean. It is still important to provide comfort and playtime during a crisis becayse young children can pick up on the vibe around them.

Both natural and man-made disasters can impact a child. Most children like to see the world as safe and predictable. It’s important to continue your usual routine and make your child feel safe. Stress the fact that these kinds of headline disasters are extremely rare.

Hopefully we will never have to experience what the Japanese people have endured during these recent weeks. Unfortunately, earthquakes and natural disasters are a reality because we live upon the constantly changing and moving Earth. Teaching your child to respect nature and not to fear it is so important. Give your children an extra hug tonight. Life is so fleeting and precious.