Since my last report…moved out, left the house, the spouse and lots of history behind… It’s amazing how 8 weeks can be enough to transform your life, but it actually took half that time. The house of 26 years has been sold and the spouse has gone south while I have moved to beautiful Newport Beach, the place I first lived in 1977. Lots of water under THAT bridge, too! Since the PATCH web site is new, you may be new as well and if you are over 40 and “Single Again,” than this blog is for you. As I’ve gone through my departure of my old life and the exciting, frustration, and a bit of fear of the new, I will share what I discover and you can do likewise. The house and cars and high overhead are now history, along with the strain of moving out of a home we lived in for almost three decades and the purging of so much crap it angered me to see how much money was wasted on…things. Things that no longer matter since that are just fodder and collectibles, and if the life we lead is not happy, none of that means anything. Time to get back to simple things and now I’ll be more pragmatic in what I accumulate and how I proceed. The beauty of youth is that if you screw up you have many more times to learn, fix It, and get it right or certainly better. When we’re in our last 1/3 of our life, redo’s and rewinds are not as easy and some times impossible. Things are in storage, and I brought just what little I needed to in order to live. Took a few days to get all set up with utilities and moving stuff from A to B to C, but it’s mostly done. Now comes the fun part: Starting Over. The experience with on-line dating has resulted in a very good friendship, probably not romantic, but that’s OK. Other than that, just a bit of flirtation back and forth and learning the rules of the game. I’ve found that my schedule has been much busier than I thought and now I have a clear head to get involved with other things, like my church, hiking and walking, and spending time with friends both old and new. The relationship I had with my soon-to-be ex was devoid of emotional connection and I’m finding that need to be a huge factor. There are many beautiful people where we live, and many are beautiful on the outside and that is it. As spirituality and contentment have become a bigger part of my life I find that I am attracting those types of people, which is great. The Law of Attraction in action. These editions may be spaced out a bit more since the beginning of the year, 90-day action plan, is now complete. Even so, I’d love to share your experiences and thoughts with our readers, and yes, it will be confidential. Please comment or e-mail and if you’d like a private conversation that is an option as well.
