If You Treat a Woman Like a Queen, She’ll Treat You Like a King

What exactly does it mean to treat your lady like a queen? Does it entail opening doors; showering her with gifts; daily compliments; attentive nonjudgmental listening; applauding her career aspirations; reinforcing bff gatherings; acknowledging she’s always right; cleaning the kitchen after meals; bringing home the bacon; refraining from cyber sex; telling her she’s your raison d’etre?

How precisely do you treat your gentleman like a king? Would you feed him grapes; cook him fabulous fare; massage his neck after a grueling day on the job; give him space to zone out with sports or video games; renounce expressions of unwarranted jealousy; allow him to vent; support boy’s nights out; cease badmouthing his friends, family, children, exes; steer clear of nagging or asking a million questions bordering on prying?

Many of these concepts are interchangeable between sexes and based on individual perception. Following them diligently can conceivably operate as an aphrodisiac and generate a sense of euphoria in your main squeeze.   

Generally speaking, everyone just wants to be loved and to love; honored and cherished; indulged in pleasure and delight; cared for physically, emotionally, psychologically; deemed special, valuable, important; and lucratively linked with a match who gets them and has their back.

Who doesn’t yearn for a soul mate to call your best friend, a sweetheart you can’t exist without, a dearest you pine for after only a few hours apart?

These may sound like straightforward goals but they’re not easy or effortless to achieve. Intimacy producing a meaningful union involves dedication and work, comparable to a 24/7 vocation. Long lasting, fruitful relationships require unconditional giving 99% of the time, without expecting anything in return.

How do you unerringly trust the universe to provide for you and take that leap of faith unreservedly? It depends on how much courage you can muster to extend beyond your comfort zone and protective barriers.

A good barometer is how completely you opt to commit to your paramour. Do you refuse to be monogamous, keeping other prospects in the wings, in case the current flame doesn’t pan out?

Are you substantially insecure to the point that you continue to flirt, addicted to the intrigue, callous to causing hurt feelings in your partner? Are you man/woman enough to fight for the one that tickles your fancy, or are you too cowardly and weak to admit you’re smitten?

Breaking detrimental patterns necessitates making a decision to assume charge of your destiny. Choose to consider your own personal growth and evolvement a priority. Then incorporate steps towards your target, i.e. regarding your woman like a queen so she’ll regard you like a king.

Actions may be as fundamental as saying the three magic words “I Love You,” removing profiles from online dating sites, discarding phone numbers from prior possibilities, bestowing her/him with the key to your hearth, sharing your most confidential trials and tribulations, announcing to the world you’re a couple and you treasure the bond the two of you have developed.

The great guy in this video, http://vimeo.com/42828824, knows how to treat a lady and has found the queen to his kingdom. He raises the bar for men across the globe. If you dare to step up to the plate with an opus as creative and endearing, you too can be king for a day.

After witnessing his touching profession of reverence, you’re sure to garner hope and a renewed desire to seek your ‘happily ever after.’ You may even discover a way to top this once in a lifetime moment and sweep the woman of your dreams off her feet.

The older you are, the more baggage you carry, i.e. a history/herstory of pain and disappointments. This often prompts countless bachelors/bachelorettes to retreat and isolate, hiding behind busyness, professions, hobbies, illness, etc.

Allowing the sunlight of the spirit to enter, freeing your mind and soul from what ails your heart, can seem like a scary proposition. Yet, in the end, the effect of your endeavors is unimaginable joy and bliss.

Singles Slogan for the Week: I can cultivate my garden of self-love by practicing ‘esteemable’ behavior towards myself and others. I consciously perform tasks that are contrary to my normal routine, recognizing this will boost my inner confidence and foster mutually satisfying connections. If I’m typically a giver, I’ll attempt receiving. If I’m used to being pursued, I’ll try pursuing.

A huge hug and thank you to all those who attended my birthday bash on Memorial Day at the Oyster House and particularly, for your generous, thoughtful presents and presence. Kudos to fellow birthday boy, Ron King, and his brilliant band, Andy Langham, Hamilton Price, and Ray Brinker for their magnificent sounds, especially the amazing rendition of  “Happy Birthday” that blew the minds of the mesmerized crowd and still lingers in my core.

For an uplifting experience, escort your precious to the film, “The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel,” starring Judi Dench, Maggie Smith, and Bill Nighy, about a group of bold Brits who believe it’s never too late to start over. Their adventures will motivate you to rejoice in and embrace life’s twists, turns, and surprises that await you when you’re ready and open.

On Thursday, June 7, 2012 from 7:00-10:00pm at Downtown LA’s Urbano Pizza Bar, 630 W. 6^th Street, Los Angeles, CA 90017 (adjacent to the magnificent LA Central Library), join L7 Singles for a Pop-Up Food and Tasting Room, hosted by Viña Montes, a pioneer of premium Chilean wines. Catch winemaker Aurelio Montes pouring some of his top selections, including the popular Montes "M", which retails for $90.

The $35 price includes delectable dishes by Urbano’s: Crispy pork belly skewers with mustard, maple, and lime; Duck confit club sliders; Farmer’s market vegetable antipasti; House-made mozzarella on crostini with piquillo peppers; Spring onion confit tartlet with braised oxtail paprikash. Call 310-877-6266 for tickets and info. Lot parking is $6. A portion of proceeds will be donated to the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation.