Isolation & Loneliness Can Bring Depression to Seniors During the Holidays

The majority of us have fond memories of holidays past. Often when one remembers the hustle and bustle of those days we have forgotten the stress and demands, but remember the sweet orange and crunchy nuts in our Christmas stocking or the wonder of lighting the menorah. Unfortunately, for seniors who live alone, the contrast between those happy holiday memories and their current situation can cause depression during the holiday season.

When you have a senior in your life who is living alone, it is a good idea to assess them for real depression at this time of year. Some of the signs of depression include: crying more, less interested in activities they previously found enjoyable, loss of appetite, and just not wanting to participate in anything you suggest. If you see these signs in a senior, a trip to the doctor would be in order. A little medication along with your
support could go a long way in making this a better holiday season.

If you don’t see these signs, but you still feel they are “down” or “blue,” try to bring some joy to their day by taking an outing to see holiday decorations. Listening to favorite carols at the same time as doing some holiday baking (be sure to pick one of their favorites) might bring some much needed cheer.

Many local organizations provide daily calls or friendly visitors; this might be a good time to enroll a parent or older relative in a program. The Village movement, where you join for a minimal monthly fee (these are local grassroots non-profits run by seniors), can provide a volunteer to take your family member out for an outing once a week as well as attend the events they offer for free or low cost.

Isolation and loneliness are detrimental to one’s health. The holidays and dark shorter days can also contribute to feeling sad or depressed. Find local resources or work with a Professional Care Manager in your area to set up a social calendar for your family member. If you need help call Eldercare Services and we will connect you with a Care Manager anywhere in the country.

By Linda Fodrini-Johnson, MA, MFT, CMC