Shy teenage son? 5 easy tips to get him out of his shell.

"Why don’t you talk? You’re so weird!"

Shyness is misinterpreted by society. A teen who is shy is sometimes perceived as weird, rude, dumb, odd, has an issue, has autism, has no friends, and on and on and on ……

These are real things people say or think. But most of the time the opposite is actually true.

Some teen boys might say, "I just do not know what to say most of the time. If I talk to someone I feel like I will say the wrong thing and embarrass myself. It’s better not to say anything at all."

Some parents think “he’ll grow out of it." However, without taking active steps and seeking help, this kind of social phobia can be limit a teenage boy.  

The Problem

Our society favors bold and expressive kids, while shy kids are perceived negatively.

The Good News

Parents can offer lots of support and help by using different strategies.

Recognizing Shyness

Shy kids are easy to recognize in class and in social groups. Although they appear to be quiet and calm, they are anxious because of fear, embarrassment or insecurity when around people. In social events, a shy teen wants sometimes wants to shrink or escape. When circumstances force him to stay with the group, he can feel tormented by worries that he is being judged.

The Biology of Shyness

According to Lynne Henderson, Ph.D., and Philip Zimbardo, Ph.D., founders of the Shyness Institute in Palo Alto, Calif., physical signs of shyness might be:

• Blushing
• Cold sweat in the palms
• Palpitations and accelerated heart rate
• Dry mouth
• Speech dysfluencies: lisping, stuttering, truncation and confused talk, usually in a low voice
• Restlessness, nervousness and fidgeting whenever someone is trying to make contact
• Feeling faint or dizzy, butterflies in the stomach or nausea

These unmanageable and embarrassing symptoms worsen the situation, causing the child more embarrassment.....

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