Habits of Happy People

Happy people are always happy. These 5 habits that happy people work to create every day, create happiness. Happiness is something we have to work on every day till it becomes a natural habit. In a world where “habits” are seen as bad, I thought I’d put up some “habits” that can be seen as good!

1. Deciding to be happy.

This is the number one habit of all happy people. Happiness is a choice. Happy people simply choose to be happy. They simply choose to find happiness in every moment that they are alive. They look inside of themselves, and think about all the reasons they should be happy. The Tao te Ching states that “There is no way to happiness, Happiness is the way.” That’s the key…just smile, smile big, smile large, smile because you are happy. Tell yourself…I’m happy and I’m happy I’m happy!

2. Being Thankful

Happy people are thankful. Not just thankful that they won the lottery, or thankful that they were given a prize. No! Thankful about everything.  Ricky Robert III  ,author and creator of the company You Are Valued, said recently at a book release party that he, “wakes up every morning, and before he places his feet on the floor, he says how thankful he is for waking up, the sun, the bed, and his life.” Ricky is one of the happiest people I know. These happy people look at a traffic jam and say: Thank-You for giving me a moment to reflect on my situation right now. Happy people look at the world and see it not as a place of destruction, but a place to be thankful for. Thankful for their life, their breath, their skin, their friends, and everything that happens to them.

3. Focusing on NOW!

Happy people focus on what is going on right now. They’re not focusing on what will happen, and what might happen, or what has the possibility to happen….these are all unknowns. They’re not focusing on what happened when they were a kid, what their parents did or didn’t do to or with them, or the myriad of things that happened in the past to upset them. They are not holding grudge or being unforgiving. They aren’t venting about something that happened or a time they were wrong. They focus on what’s going on now, and then they celebrate it by being present enough to enjoy it. I can’t tell you how many parents I see that let these precious moments of their child’s life slip by as they focus on updating their Facebook status instead of playing with them. There are amazing things happening right now…be there, and smile as it happens

4. Not concerned with money

I’m not saying that happy people don’t care about money. We live in a world where money is essential to do many things, pay bills, etc. However, happy people are not focused on what money they have, what money they don’t have, or what bills are or are not getting paid. If you have enough money to live and fulfill your “needs”, you really don’t need much more. Unfortunately, people create an idea that they “need” a lot of “things” , and then wrap their whole lives around accumulating or paying off those things.  They they create emotions about those “things”.  After that, they focus on accumulating more and more money just in case they will “need” more things in a future that they don’t even know will ever show up.  Interesting enough, if you have money to pay a bill, then you pay it. But if you don’t have money to pay the bill..there’s no reason to worry..it will do nothing and the bill is still not paid.

5. Accepting and Understanding

Happy people spend a lot of their time accepting and understanding. When you accept that a situation has happened, then you don’t create any emotions connected to it. It just happens, and then you decide what to do. When someone is angry about something or at you, a happy person will strive and look to understand why the person is angry. People become angry, upset, and bothered because they have created a thought that this moment is not how they “pictured” it, therefore they are using the only way they know how to create their own happiness. Unfortunately, many people do not know how to deal with this frustration in any way but anger. A happy person, realizes this, and will help the upset person to connect to their happiness. When we strive to accept that things are, and that they are not done “to us”..we see that things just happen because they are happening. When we understand that everyone in the world is striving for their own happiness…we see that there are a lot of people who don’t know that it is already inside of them.

Happiness is a goal…and the more happiness you see in your life and in yourself, the more happy you will be.

Be Happy

Chad Herman - motivatingforpositivechange.com