Dating - The Giving Too Much Pattern

Another night of self-discovery, who says you can’t teach an old girl something new! Wow, as I continue to transition to living my BEST Life, I have heard many times, you can’t change, but last night I started to really think this is not so. What is real is you won’t change or shall I say embrace the new without wanting more for yourself.

That’s the real change, to think you want something new and exciting rather than the same, rather than accepting the norm. Wanting to truly embrace life without regards of the past, present or future, accepting life as it comes…WOW can you imagine the possibilities?

I participated in WGSN-DB Going Solo Network’s Chat Night which is held once a month online for free, unbelievable that leaders in the relationship (relationship loss, divorce and dating) arena would give up an evening for free to chat with those who are trying to get over that bump in the road. Relationships, i.e. Dating, oh the confusion when Boy meets Girl!

Last night Lisa Copeland, Dating Expert of How to Find a Quality Man and Host of WGSN-DB Going Solo Network – Singles’ Internet Talk Radio, You Can Find Love After 50 and to my surprise Dr. Kat Smith, Intimacy Expert joined in as we had our discussion on “Our Mindset in Dating”. What I homed in on for me personally, is that I am too giving in a relationship. With displaying this type of behavior so quickly at the onset of dating, my partner as the relationship continues not only take advantage but becomes withdrawn and more self-centered. The guys I am choosing and my behavior was and is creating huge painful problem in my life.

But what struck me is not the behavior of my partners but my behavior and the patterns in my life, what Lisa Copeland and Dr. Kat Smith homed in on is this giving destructive pattern I was showing was more deep rooted. Sure it may not seem like a problem to some, but for me this “Giving Too Much Pattern” has created much pain in my life.

So where to go from here? It’s time to revisit the past to better understand why I feel I must give in order to be loved and appreciated. Shouldn’t we just simply be loved and appreciated for who we are?

This may very well be a topic for another “chat night”. Hope to see you at the next WGSN-DB Going Solo Network - Singles' Internet Radio Chat Night.

Cece Shatz, CEO My Friends Connect (Relationship Loss, Divorce, Dating Transition, Dating Interactive-Support Group), www.ceceshatz.com WGSN-DB Going Solo Network www.goingsolonetwork.com