By: Kenneth Stepp
Ready….. Does love simply come? I am “somewhat” confident it does. I believe I have seen it more times that I deserve. Being ready for it when it does is the trick. Is timing so important? I believe it is. Timing affects everything that time touches. That’s a given. So what does timing do to love? It means two people have to be receptive to it at the same time. That seldom happens. One jumps, the other follows. This will not end well. But it will end. Leaving hurt, pain, and bad feelings. Hopefully, understanding later will heal these for us all.
“Before everything else, getting ready is the secret of success” – Henry Ford
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Set…… What on earth is the answer? How can two people who want forever, be ready at the same time.? Clearing the baggage covering in that path has been a journey for me. One that I accept willingly. One that I believe I have cleaned up from time to time. Only to find a few more boxes and bags still block my way. It isn’t that I won’t get there. I will. I think time, the enemy to “ready”, is the healer for “set”. Having your eyes SET on what you want most, in my case, forever. This is what is important. Patience has never been my bailiwick. Being forced to be patient is even harder.
“Set your sights high, the higher the better. Expect the most wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now. Realize that nothing is too good. Allow absolutely nothing to hamper you or hold you up in any way” – Eileen Caddy
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Go….. Diving into a relationship too soon can be tricky. Can it work? I honestly do not know. One of those things that I will need feedback from my readers on. I do know that most fail. But most relationships do anyway. Going from where you are. An interesting concept. You are where you are because of your past. Your past will explain your present. Never allow it to excuse it. GOING for it is scary. But finding a potential partner and not pursuing them is equally scary. I guess it is an individual choice thing. I know that many go different ways on this one. I’m still thinking about this one myself.
Ready, Set, Go…. Is this the recipe or the bane of relationships. I believe every stage along the journey is plagued with landmines. They are plentiful. Some look like wonderful things and then we recognize them as dangerous. Scary. As I mentioned before. Prepare your heart, prepare yourself as best you can. Make decisions about what you will do if this happens or that happens. Making them while in a situation is going to cause results no one wants. Preparation is key. Internal preparation that is.
I do not believe there are any off the shelf answers. I know so many people who dedicate their decision-making process to social norms. You’ve heard them. “Ask anyone”, “That’s what everyone does”, “Everyone thinks that”. These people and I should not be in the same room. I’m unsure I want to share my planet with them. In matters of the heart. Every decision is based on you and them. Too totally different people. Trying to make it work. They aren’t everyone. They are unique. And making it work together has never been tried in the history of man. So, no social norm answers please. No advisors either. They all have a bias AND an agenda. Think for yourself. You are responsible for the results, only you have to live with them. If you love someone. Keep them. If you don’t. Let them go. If I had advice worth taking. This would be it.
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