'Ask Debbie Sue' Dating Advice

I hope everyone had a wonderful month. I've been very busy. I have been working & also doing my comedy writing. I'm working on a song with a guitarist. I wrote the lyrics & we're working on the background guitar & piano music. I'm also performing my comedy & I had scenes from my screenplay, 'Dating Dilemmas' filmed a couple of months ago. I'll let my readers know when the video with the humorous scenes is on my website.

I've received letters from several of my readers about what to do when dating someone that they don't 'trust' completely. I find that, you have to trust your own instincts. If you feel that the partner you're dating is not trustworthy, then re-examine the relationship. If you don't believe that person is telling you the truth, then most of the time your gut instincts are correct. I always try to go with my first impression. My women's intuition comes into play when I have a feeling someone is 'lying' or fabricating the truth. I've also received many letters from my female readers asking what to do when they're dating a nice guy, but the guy is a 'slob.' Not everyone dresses exactly the way you would like them to. There is always a tactful way to express how you're feeling to your partner. If you don't want to look at the same type of sloppy clothing each time you go out together. There are proper ways of conveying how you feel to your partner.

Dear Debbie Sue, "For the past few weeks, I've been dating a slob! He said women don't stay with him at all. They go out with him once and never see him again, he said. He's 49 years old and was never married. He told me every woman he dates breaks up with him and winds up dating or marrying someone else. He wears the same red shirt with spots of food on it every time he picks me up. He doesn't shave. His hair is ok, doesn't comb it though. Everything else is messy. He doesn't clean the inside of his car before our date. There were crumbs & pieces of pizza crust all over the seat, the floor & candy wrappers! I don't know how to tell him I don't want to go out with him until he cleans up & dresses better. He calls everyday to say hello. He's a nice guy & I wanted to get to know him but his sloppiness is disgusting. What should I do?" Miss Neat & Tidy.

Dear Miss Neat & Tidy: You are definitely dating a slob. He wears the same shirt, doesn't comb his hair, or clean his car before the date? I can totally understand why women don't want to date this guy. Other women didn't stay with him & you probably won't either. It sounds like he doesn't put any effort in making himself appear presentable before a date. He doesn't sound like he likes himself too much either. My suggestion would be for you to express your feelings to him. Tell him, you enjoy his company, but he needs to clean up his act or you won't be dating him anymore. If he continues to be a slob then, move on and find someone else. There's plenty of single men out there that care about the way they look & dress on a date. Good luck to you.

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