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'Ask Debbie Sue' Dating advice with Author & Comedian Debbie Sue Goodman

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I hope all my readers are having a good month and keeping warm with the cold winter weather. I've had many letters from single men & women that have asked a similiar question the past few weeks. If I ever went on a dinner date with someone that didn’t pay attention to me, but was more interested in the waitress or reading e-mails.

Several years ago I went out with a guy that was text messaging one of his ex-girlfriend's while we were on a date. He kept texting her & telling me everything he was writing to her. One female reader wrote she went to dinner with one of her girlfriend's who kept calling her boyfriend while they were having dinner. She ended up leaving the restaurant, and her girlfriend, still talking on the phone, didn't notice she left! I've written about 'Cell phone etiquette' in some of my other columns. It's best to put your cell phones in your pocket, purse or anywhere where it isn't 'in the way' of the conversation you're having with whoever you are out with. Unless it's absolutely necessary- It's very rude to continue to talk, text or look at your phone while you're on a date. You can wait until the date is over before you answer text messages or phone calls.

I had a dinner date with a guy that seemed more interested in ‘himself’ then answering his cell phone or texting. I wrote about the date in my first book, ‘Still Single.’ The story was titled:

‘From Bad to Worse’

I met this guy several years ago through a singles dating site. He described himself as ‘very handsome’ and told me on the phone that all the ladies were attracted to him. I had to meet him to see for myself.

We met at a restaurant for lunch. He was tall, handsome, slender, had long curly dark hair and athletic. But, he had one problem. He kept looking in the mirror, more then I looked in the mirror no matter where we went. When we were in the car, he kept looking in the rear view mirror at himself. He kept asking me for my mirror! During lunch, at various restaurants, he picked up the knives, forks and spoons just to look at himself in every kind of reflection there was. Everywhere we went, he kept asking, ‘Do you think the waitress is looking at me?’ ‘Do you think the waiter is looking at me?’ ‘Do you think anyone is looking at me?’ I didn’t answer him. On another date during lunch he said, ‘Look at this, Everyone's looking at me!’

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I replied, ‘I know one person who isn’t going to look at you anymore,’ and I left..

Dear Debbie Sue: 'I've been dating a guy for a few weeks who doesn't pay attention to me while we're on a date. He stares at waitresses, customers at other tables and texts his friends on his cell phone. On our last date, his male best friend called while we were having drinks and appetizers at a bar. He talked to him and never acknowledged he was on a date! The last guy I dated did a similiar thing to me, and I broke up with him. I don't know what to do about this guy.' Call me- 'Mixed up.'

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Dear Mixed up: You need to tell this guy how you feel. You broke up with the last guy that treated you the same way. You did the right thing. Look for a man that gives you his ‘full attention’ when you’re on a date. Staring at the waitresses, and texting his friends is just plain rude. If he continues to not give you his undivided attention on your next date, Pick up your cell phone and call his cell phone. When he answers, say ‘Goodbye…’

Dear- Distraught over boyfriend: You've dated this guy for over 4 months. You say he doesn't show you 'respect' anywhere you go? You go out to restaurants & he walks in front of you & doesn't hold the door open for you? A waitress was rude to you. He didn't 'stand-up' for you? He didn't help you bring groceries up 4 flights of stairs to your apartment when you cooked him dinner? He followed you up the stairs & watched you almost drop everything? Then he laughed at you?! He criticizes everything you do including your job? I can't understand why you would date a man that treats you this way. You're not sure if you should continue to date him? The best answer I can give you is to show him the exit door. Don't go out with him ever again. There are men out there that will treat you with respect. You need to love & respect yourself. When you do, the right man will be waiting on the other side of the door. And he will hold it open for you. Good luck to you!

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year everyone!

Until next time... 'Keep Smiling!'

Debbie Sue

www.stillsingle.org

Send questions & comments to: debrasue-60076@msn.com

Join Debbie Sue & her friends on January 26, 2017 at: Rock House 1742 Glenview, IL. At 7:30-9:30 pm.

For: 'An Evening of Comedy, Spoken Word & Music.'


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