Easing parents into college life

Last week, AIB welcomed new students to the first of three on-campus Orientations scheduled before the Fall Term begins Sept. 3. (Students enrolled in only online classes will “attend” their Orientation via the Internet.)

Parents are encouraged to come to the on-campus Orientation with their students, because, well, the parents often have a need to be here.

Tawnya and Jason Burdette of Donnellson accompanied their daughter, Taylor, who will study Business Administration and play basketball at AIB. It’s a new experience for the Burdettes to send a child off to college.

“I think Taylor would be OK anywhere,” Tawnya says. “But for us, I guess it puts my mind at ease to see the campus and meet the faculty. It’s a little bit of a relief to see that AIB is so homey.”

Stephanie Oliver of West Des Moines and Doug Wermeskerch of Omaha, parents of incoming AIB student Casey Wermeskerch, attended Orientation at a larger university for their older son – and they notice a difference.  

“This is a lot nicer,” Stephanie says. “It’s a refreshing change, believe me.”

Casey, who will study Contemporary Media Communications at AIB, was home-schooled, and his parents appreciate having an opportunity at Orientation to personally meet members of the AIB faculty. That’s not the case at their other son’s college.

“We have no idea who his professors are,” Doug says.

Not all family members at AIB’s Orientations are parents. Erica Ivkovic came with her brother, Brandon Dahl, of Fort Atkinson.

Erica, who attended a larger college, was impressed.

“AIB is more involved,” she says.

Co (as in Coleen) Crew of Knoxville says her daughter, Calli, is excited to work toward an associate degree in Event, Hospitality and Tourism Management, then earn a bachelor’s degree in Business Administration at AIB.

“She’s always been a mature student,” Co says. “To get on with her career is what she’s always wanted, so I’m happy for her.”

But for Mom, sending her only child off to college raises other emotions.

“It’s another chapter,” Co says resolutely.

Pointers for parents

AIB Director of Student Counseling Shelia Keene, M.S., L.M.H.C., offers these tips for parents sending a child off to college:

Realize that college is a big step. It means experiencing separation and letting go. But it’s also a time for new beginnings and new opportunities. It is important to express your support, understanding and trust.

Encourage your student to utilize support services. This includes faculty members, academic advisors and officers, the director of student life, residence assistants, the student counselor, Career Services staff, tutors and Student Orientation Staff leaders.

Discuss important topics before college starts. Talk about your financial limits, money management, the basics of sharing an apartment, time management and your views on alcohol, drugs and sexual issues.

Keep lines of communication open. Discuss communication expectations, show interest and encouragement and be a good listener.

Prepare for emotions on move-in day. Enough said.

Handle homesickness. Encourage students to get involved in campus activities, stay in touch and send care packages.

Encourage your student. Stress the importance of making education a priority, developing good time-management skills, attending class and studying, maintaining good health and getting involved in campus activities and organizations.

Pay attention. Call the student counselor if you notice repeated tearful phone calls, weight loss, frequent illness or fatigue or changes in behavior or signs of depression.