Elementary School bullying

Although I am not a Maryland resident, I do feel the need to spread the word regarding a Montgomery County performer/speaker.

Paul Merklein is a local Cartoonist & Speaker who travels the country speaking about kindness, anti-bullying, and respect. He incorporates these topics into his show that also involves cartooning. The idea of this show is wonderful…speak about a topic that kids need to hear about, and keep their attention with artistry that they can relate to. Bullying has become a rampant issue throughout the country, and adults who are willing to speak to children about the dangers of bullying are desperately needed. Sadly, Paul is not one of these adults.

Earlier this week Paul spoke to my local elementary school and presented his program “Be A Super Hero (Anti-Bullying, Respect).” During the course of his show he asked for a volunteer, and one of my sons eagerly raised his hand. He is very interested in art and drawing, and since it will be relevant to the rest of the story, has long hair. Paul called on my son and mistook him for a girl. An honest mistake, and my son is actually used to it at this point! Several of the kids in the audience yelled out “he’s a boy, he’s a boy!’ coming to the defense of my son. At this point, a simple “I’m sorry, my mistake” from Paul could have ended the confusion, and taught all the children in the audience that everyone makes mistakes and that kindness should be the answer. Instead, Paul proceeded to ridicule and insult my son, making comments such as “What, they don’t have any barbers in this town?” So, in front of 100+ elementary school kids, there was my son. On the verge of tears as an adult hired to speak on the importance of kindness and anti-bullying, bullied him. Not only were his comments completely out of line and inappropriate, he taught an entire audience of children that it is ok to mock someone because they look different.

Luckily, the principal, the teachers, and several students picked up on how hurtful Paul’s comments were. One 6th grader sought out the principal just to tell her “that was really mean.” Once confronted about the comments by the principal in her office, Paul was not exactly apologetic. He has refused to return any of my attempts to contact him, and did not apologize to my son. A simple apology goes a long way if it is truly heartfelt, but I can see now that it will not be coming.

I share this story simply to encourage schools, libraries, and other community gatherings, to make sure the speaker you are bringing in is expressing the message that is intended. Perhaps speak to schools who have used the speaker previously, or sit down with the speaker beforehand and have a candid conversation. What you find out can then educate your decision on whether or not to bring this person into your setting. And perhaps, prevent just one more instance of bullying.