I may never understand fully the thrill of hours spent catching frogs in a murky, muck-bottomed pond. The aftermath of wet, muddy, smelly sneakers and stained clothes is not a welcomed sight.
Still, I supply the buckets and nets. I listen from the window to the squeals and loud voices. I discern the screams to make sure there are not cries signaling any form of distress. I respond to the invitation to come out and meet “Hoppy,” “Jumpy,” “Skippy,” “Lily,” “Tiny” and “Tom” before they are all returned to their natural habitat.
Apparently “Hoppy” is a girl and she can jump the farthest. “Tom,” who is affectionately named after daddy, is “The Frog Prince.” I marvel at the imagination and hours of spontaneous entertainment.
It is really fascinating to watch children at play--to see what is born from freedom, spontaneity and innocence is simply beautiful. To witness how they are able to make use of the simplest of materials. To see their connection to nature.
We may not understand or agree, but when we step aside just enough, we begin to see what we may have forgotten; the wonder, the simplicity, the delight in the simple things.
Whether it is catching the "Frog Prince", raising butterflies from eggs or gardening, most activities in nature allow for that connection to the mystery and creativity that exists within us. There is no competition or conflict. There are no set goals. There are no worries about making mistakes. There is only pure enjoyment and reverence for all there is.
I will be the first to admit that I'm not a parenting expert. Every time I think I may have it figured out, something else comes us that causes me to realize that even with my intentions, this too is a learning process.
The only advice I would venture to offer when it comes to raising our children is that we have to provide guidance, love them regardless (especially when they stray from that guidance), forgive often, them and ourselves, laugh as much as possible and let go of all that is beyond our control.
This applies not only in raising our children, but in living our lives. So just maybe these are some of what they are here to teach us.
Enjoy the rest of your summer.