Where Does Person in 50s Look for Love: Go Ask Wally

NATICK, MA - He’s already a bonafide Internet sensation, and probably the biggest bunny celebrity to hit social media. Wally the Bunny has 217,000 followers on Instagram, and he’s been featured in numerous media outlets, including People Magazine, CNN, Good Morning America and the Boston Globe.

Now, Wally (and Molly) are going to assist and entertain Patch readers each week with the advice column “Go Ask Wally.” Each week, we’ll field questions from readers, and pick the most interesting one, with Wally answering one question each Monday on Natick Patch.

QUESTION: I’m an average weight/looks 56-year-old single woman. Where do you meet nice age-appropriate single guys? Others I ask do not have a good answer for this. Internet dating sites seem to have a lot of insincere men on them. Should I just give up? --- Frankie

ANSWER: Hi, Frankie! It’s ME, Wally!

No! Don’t give up! Dating can take tremendous patience and perseverance, but have confidence. Regain direction and motivation by creating a clear vision of the kind of relationship you want and the kind of person you want to be with. If online dating truly doesn’t appeal to you, increase your social connectivity by taking classes or joining groups/clubs in your community, attending local events, volunteering, asking friends/coworkers to introduce you to new social circles – you must gradually spin a broader social web. But let’s also talk about your online dating strategies.

Allow me to use an analogy: Imagine a garden of carrots. “Insincere men” place so much value on the greens above the surface that they never even discover the exquisite carrot beneath the soil. How sad! These men are merely weeds in a garden of blossoming flowers! Remember the vision we discussed above? Allow this to be your compass as you navigate the garden of new relationships.

When you establish an online connection, go ahead and ask the important questions right away. What is this person looking for in a relationship and in a partner? You deserve a clear, thoughtful response – so keep your expectations high, Frankie. If his answer aligns with your own vision, meet in person as soon as you’re comfortable. Speaking face-to-face is more revealing and can help you assess the person’s sincerity.

And now it’s time for my second analogy: Have you ever skipped rocks, Frankie? You might try an entire handful of pebbles before one hits the water at just the right angle! And so, too, must you persist with online dating. But isn’t it amazing once your stone dances across the water?! Be patient, Frankie, and you will soon see ripples!

Wally (and his mom) fields questions that range from life’s conflicts and local politics to social etiquette to general hygiene and fashion tips. If Wally thinks the question is beyond his scope of expertise, he will pass it to his administrative team.

So what say you? Have you a question for Wally? We will compile them here at Patch and feature one question and answer each week. Send your questions to charlene.arsenault@patch.com. Or post your query in the comments section.

Photo Credit: courtesy Molly Prottas