The Four Agreements

Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz With further interpretations from Kristen Crociati

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Be Impeccable With Your Word

Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself oDr to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

To elaborate on this agreement, it means to speak exactly what you mean as you know it to be. Speak your truth without beating around the bush. Confusions and disagreements arise when you are not clear about your feelings or what your intentions are. Avoid using words against yourself as well, like negative statements or words, for example; I cannot go I have no money. This statement will only bring more events and situations that you will not have money for and will block money from coming into you. Instead try saying; I chose to spend my money on something else this week so maybe another time. This will give you more choices to which to spend your money. Or you may want to say; I am saving my money for a certain thing or trip, this will bring to you more reasons to save. Course if you want or need more money you will have to take action and think and finds ways to make more money. Do not tell someone else’s story, especially in a malicious or condescending way. If you have to relay or tell another’s story do so with respect and in a way that will help others. Always speak your words with good intent, truth and love! Never speak words of hate vulgarity or in any form of negativity.

Don’t Take Anything Personally

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

This is a tough one because if someone is using negative words it may feel hurtful and may even bring your energy down. But it is for your own best interest to keep in mind that everyone out there is fighting their own battle. Do your best to be truthful and polite and then try to remove yourself from the situation. This is also hard when they involve you or do things to you that they know will hurt you. Most likely they sense or know you are stronger and will try to pull you down so that they feel better. Really best to just remove yourself from the situation and detach. As long as you know that you did not do anything or say anything that may have been hurtful to another than it is not your battle. You can say you’re sorry if you caused any hurt feelings even if you’re think your actions were not in ill intent and then just move on.

Don’t Make Assumptions

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Speak your truth with a pure mind and happiness will follow. If you do not have the courage to ask the questions then you will not get the answers, if you do not express to others what you truly want then you will forever be trying to guess what they are thinking and hoping for an outcome that may never come. If you do not express what is in your heart or what you desire than you cannot expect it to come to you or the outcome that you want. I have experienced a few people that would think of every reason why someone did what they did and then would take one of them and try to fit it to their desired out come and in the process would create such drama and unnessiary confusion and pain and hurt feelings. I have also known a few to say things to others to get them to react and sway them to believe their realities. Like I said above never tell anothers story with illicit intent, and be wary of someone gossiping or telling another’s story without pure intent to help another out. Believe none of what you hear and half of what you see.

Always Do Your Best

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.

Well folks we are all human and we will all make mistakes from time to time and possible in certain circumstances forget all of these agreement and not handle ourselves the way we had wished to when we take a moment to look back at our actions and words. This is going to happen, we are human. But for the most part you need to keep a pure mind and act and speak in your truth, but also in a manner that will not hurt or upset others. In other words put your best foot forward. If you always give each day, moment and chore all that you have to the best of your abilities then you really cannot go wrong.

Namaste!