As a wedding photographer for my business, Lumen Photography, I feel comfortable making the claim that I am a wedding expert. I have photographed over a hundred weddings in the last few years and I've had the pleasure, and occasional frustration, of learning the ins and outs of how to be a wedding guest who doesn't make an enemy of the photographer.
Let me preface today's post by saying that, regardless of what happens at a weddings, the reason one should hire a professional, is the fact that we are able to deal with any and all situations; so, even if these are happening, we'll get amazing photos.
1. Try and be respectful of the photographers space. Often times, a pro at a wedding will have over $10,000 of camera gear with them. While usually fairly rugged, mind their personal space and try to not shoot over their shoulder!
2. While the photographer is doing formal photos, try not to be distracting the group by trying to get everyone to look at your camera. Wandering eyes because of your attempt to get a photo can be frustrating to everyone involved. Instead, try to talk to the photographer beforehand and inquire as to the possibility of getting a photo of your family after he/she has had an opportunity to take theirs.
3. Leave the iPad at home. Apple makes a plethora of wonderful devices for our pleasure and convenience. The iPad does many things wonderfully, including taking photos. That being said, it's large, intrusive, and if you're holding it up during a ceremony in the center isle or over peoples heads, you may ruin a crucial photo. As a guest, enjoy the ceremony and get the card of the photographer, I'm sure they'll have no issue with getting you access to photos you may want or need.
4. If you want to talk shop with the photographer, try to wait for an appropriate moment. Oftentimes, the photographer sets the pace of the day and is intricately involved in many different portions. Therefore, they're very busy. A good time to catch them is once they've had an opportunity to sit down at the reception and eat or during the dancing after they've gotten all their crucial photos. I love talking to anyone and everyone but I definitely feel bad if I'm not able to give you time because of the upcoming bouquet toss.
5. Consider leaving your camera in the car. Trust me when I say, as a photographer, always looking through the lens of a camera and focusing on getting photos, will mean you'll miss many important moments and quite honestly forget much that happened during the day. Because you're focusing on getting that awesome photo, you miss out on the important words that are spoken or that tender moment when your daughter gives your husband a kiss. The photographer will get those photos, you should be free to enjoy your day and commit everything to memory!
While none of these are steadfast rules, hopefully they give you another perspective to see a wedding through! When in doubt, just ask yourself, "if you were the bride, would you be ok with what you're doing?"
Thanks for reading. If you want to learn more about Lumen Photography or want to book a family photo session this fall, please don't hesitate to use our contact form!
Evan