Steps to Take When an Elderly Loved One Shows Signs of Depression

MediNurse, in its 29th year as the premier provider of private duty nursing in St. Louis, reminds the public that changes that can come later in life – retirement, the death of loved ones, increased isolation, medical problems – can lead to depression. Depression not only prevents the sufferer from enjoying life, but it impacts energy level, sleep, appetite and physical health.

Depression is not inevitable with aging; knowing about the signs of this disease can help you help your loved one, and possibly save his/her life:

· Don’t dismiss symptoms. Depression is not normal bereavement or stress. Not eating for more than a few days or lack of interest in activities for more than two weeks could be depression.

· Talk with your loved one about his/her feelings. Listen carefully and recognize the significance of what he/she is saying.

· Look for subtle signs, such as excessive hand wringing, agitation, irritability and difficulty sitting.

· Refrain from using the words “depression,” “drugs” and “therapy” when talking to your loved one. If you hear something that might indicate depression, ask what has changed in his/her life.

· Depression is an illness. Family members should be aware of the disability that depression can cause; avoid making depressed loved ones feel guilty by advising them to get out more or to pull themselves up by the bootstraps.

· Do not try to do things for older loved ones that they can do for themselves. Doing things for a depressed person can reinforce their perception that they are worthless and incapable. Instead, help your loved one break down tasks into steps and praise them for their efforts.

· Try to participate in medical care. Confidentiality laws require that a patient grant permission for healthcare providers to share information with family members. Even if your loved one does not give this permission, you can still call the doctor and report symptoms that should be investigated.

· If someone talks about harming him/herself, even if it sounds like a joke, be sure to tell a healthcare professional right away.

MediNurse provides services that are customized to the individual needs of the client or patient and loved ones to ensure the best care possible. For more information, call us at 314-781-2800 or visit www.medinurse.com.