Are You a Lonely Long Islander? Single in the Suburbs?

Another year has come and gone. You’re starting to feel a little melancholic that you’re going to spend another New Year’s Eve without having that special someone to kiss when the clock strikes midnight. You find yourself dreading the thought of spending yet another Valentine’s Day alone. Worse still, you’re starting to think that love may never find you. Sadly, the last statement might prove true, since love can’t always just find you; you might just have to get out there and find it for yourself.

There’s no shortage of single people of all ages living on Long Island. Sure the suburbs can be an isolating place, but more and more Long Island towns, such as Patchogue, Huntington, Riverhead, and Farmingdale, to name just a few, have thriving downtown areas which feature fine restaurants, fun bars, and theaters. Why not go out for a night on the town? Who knows, you might just meet that special someone having the time of your life.

Staying home in your favorite PJs, in front of the boob tube, watching one Hallmark movie after another can certainly help you believe in love; even make you long for it, but it won’t help you manifest it. Manifesting love calls for a plan of action. So, stop saying, ”If it’s meant to be, it will happen all by itself.” Newsflash: No, it won’t! Sometimes you just have to put your heart, soul, mind, and body into high gear to make the miracle of love happen.

10 Simple Ways to Manifest Love in the Suburbs

1) Make finding love your number one New Year’s resolution. There’s a lot of truth in the Celine Dion hit, That’s the Way It Is. Make the following lyrics from that song your mantra for this year: “Love comes to those who believe it.”

2) Know that you have to actively be on the pursuit of love. Your lover can’t be airdropped into your bedroom. When you’re looking for work, you know that you actually have to get up and do something to find it. Love is no different. Come up with a plan of action and stick to it.

3) Put down the smartphone and talk to people. You’re a grown up now — it’s all right to talk to strangers. If you’re waiting on a line or out shopping, strike up a conversation. Your soul mate could be the person you’re sitting next to on the train or at the doctor’s office. Be awake and aware wherever you are. Love is everywhere. You just need eyes to see it.

4) Smile. Smile at everyone. Light up the room when you enter. Smiling will help emit positive energy, and people will naturally gravitate to you.

5) The greatest invitation to love is to be loving first. Be warm, friendly, open, and spontaneous on a day-to-day basis.

6) Learn something new. Get out of your comfort zone. Sign up for a class, join a gym, learn to play a musical instrument, or a new sport, or try going to a local karaoke night. You can meet some great people trying different things, and you might even find “the One” doing one of these fun, new endeavors. You could also meet a new friend who could later on introduce you to the love of your life.

7) Use all the dating resources at hand. Join a dating site, a singles group, or use a dating app. Just go into this venture with an open heart and mind, and of course, with your eyes wide open, too. Have fun doing this and don’t take all the craziness in the dating world personally. Armed with a sense of humor and backed by your strong gut instincts, you can maneuver your way through the murky waters of the new millennium dating scene and possibly find the love you have been longing for.

8) Expand your friendship world. There are nearly 3 million people living in Nassau and Suffolk Counties and the more people you know, the better, since the best way to meet a potential mate is through friends and people you know. Go to parties and events where you can make some new friends and through these people you just might meet the love of your life.

9) Get out there on a regular basis. Go to festivals, the library, a lecture, church or temple, fairs, the beach, the doggy park, or wherever people congregate. How are you going to meet someone if you never go anywhere?

10) Volunteer for a good cause. There are many charity events and fundraisers on Long Island. Volunteer your services. You will be surprised just how many like-minded people you can meet doing something good and charitable for the world. Meeting new people ups the odds of you finding your ideal soul mate.

Most importantly keep the faith, have fun, and believe that love is alive and well. And for sure, you can find it here right on Long Island.

Let me know when you find it. I’m rooting for you.

Cindi Sansone-Braff, The Romance Whisperer is the author of: Grant Me a Higher love, and Why Good People Can’t Leave Bad Relationships. She has a weekly Thursday night radio show 7 PM EST:www.blogtalkradio.com/higher-love.com. Visit her website at: www.grantmeahigherlove.com. Like her FB page: @GoodPeopleBadrelationships which has 29,000 loyal followers.