What's Stress Got To Do With It? Love, Marriage, Divorce + Post Divorce.

Stress is the #1 Influencer of the many Lifestyle diseases we face today. Whether cancer, diabetes, arthritis, and some may say, even divorce. So before things spiral downward during the thought of divorce-let’s nip the unavoidable stress in the bud. Let’s find that, seemingly lost impenetrable sacred spot-your internal compass within- so you can traverse the waters and still emerge better for having gone through this life-changing process.

The first time you realize that “this marriage ain’t gonna work” is what I call the BIG GULP. It is the time when your tongue dries up for no apparent reason and you can’t swallow while your children are asking you why you look sad. “Sad?” you repeat--and you realize yes, I am sad. This is sad and how sad it is. You decide, I must follow through on what is best for me. Me First. I’ll call this Self-Honor. You just arrived back home.

Self-care and self-honor are what the airlines teach so well before take-off. Let’s prepare you for your lift up-to your reinvention of the you —the you you’re meant to be. Let’s deal with stress. Through Mind-Body Medicine we look to stay in our optimal flow- one part affecting the other- like water, moving effortlessly around what seems to stand in it’s way. It is power, it is strength, yet it is not force. Force begets force. Power is you playing you, elegantly. Every divorce lawyer and their client as well as every client and their lawyer— need a dose of mindful elegance. Symbiotic power dream team. Having your client as their best self, makes everything so much better.

A practice of a simple breathing sequence is what connects us back to our cellular balance. With focus, like a laser, it can cut through anything-even the stress of the present moment, to cultivate it, to play full on and have it work for you.

Whether Lawyer, Client, Divorcee or Child here is an Rx 4 Prevention 911. The more we practice our breath cycles when things are flowing -and not acute- the easier it is to get back into our flow the next time. Your brain creates new neural pathways each and every time you mindfully breathe. Upon rising, before a meal, before sleep, at a business meeting, making dinner or thinking of a response in a very challenging conversation. Doing this balances your sympathetic and para-sympathetic nervous system, balances right and left hemispheres of the brain, re-oxygenates the blood, calms the releasing of stress hormones such as cortisol, the number one hormone responsible for much of today’s illnesses-anxiety, depression, diabesity, to name a few. Smoothing them down is an art -the way we put things together. Enjoy and just be.

Rx4PREVENTION 911:

Sit tall at the end of a chair, with sit bones upon chair only, and thighs off. Knees above ankles, Rest your palms upon your thighs, with the elbows under the armpits. Close your eyes and just rest.

Sit and notice your breath. Just observe. No judgment. Imagine you are sitting in this room, by yourself, as you create your own daydream, in your own personal flow. Watch the breath become deeper, slower, quieter and more regular. With this awareness the breath changes and when the breath changes, your nervous system, your mind and you internal organs regulate and shift. Everything goes for a reset. Mindset improves, hope returns, possibility arises and intuition all become sharpened.

Now, inhale through your nose and pull the breath down to your low belly expanding your whole body from the midline to the skin, even the ribs—-PAUSE. Then exhale and bring the breath up to the space between your eyes and feel the body contracting from skin, to muscles, to bones-watch the ribs gently hug your torso. PAUSE.

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

Stay with the observation of the inhale, the pause, the exhale, the pause, the inhale, the pause etc. Now, if you wish to invite more of the brain pathways, you can add the sound of OM, Amen, Shalom, Salaam or even the sound of ONE as you exhale. Inhale is full and quiet, and the exhale contains your choice sound. Allow everything to release. See yourself from above AS IF the ceiling was ripped right off the building you are in —you are now the observed, the observer and the observee. This mindset takes you to new places in a daydream that is clearly your own. Maybe you can feel a floating sensation, a whirring in the ears but mostly, see yourself as your happiest you. Still focus on lengthening the space between the inhale, the pause, the exhale and the inhale and the next pause. This loop of creating a deeper, more harmonious quieter and regular breath is medicine for the Mind-Body connection and boosts your immune system to roll with what is, what will be and how you are in it. Elegance is the body beautiful and a breath to inspire it.

INTEGRATION Rx: Use this technology each time you see a red light, when the telephone rings, or see a stop sign and just breathe. It is really just that simple. We have all we need right in our back pocket-your mind, your body and your breath. How well we use it and blend it together is art, as art is the mere putting things together so they are resonant. How well we fit our body with our mind is what makes us well adjusted. This vibration extends to those in your midst, much like the Grandfather Clock phenomenon, each entraining the other. So when we are at our most optimal place of being, so can everyone else.

See your family, your co-workers, your lawyer, your ex in a new light for you taking a hit of your own divine self, as you.

Rewire. Recalibrate. Reinvent.

Amy Elias, MS is a lifestyle pioneer with 30+ years experience as a natural living expert, wellness consultant, educational therapist​ and one of Long Island’s first Certified Yoga and Mindfulness teachers. Her combined skills as a mentor along with her expertise in the human condition truly set her apart as The Mentor’s Mentor. She holds a dual Masters of Science in Special Education and Elementary Education with a focus on Humanistic Education, Mind-Body Medicine and the influences of Epigenome. She has extensive education in alternative education in thought leadership, personal development, anthroposophy, homeopathy and Macrobiotics in both practice, philosophy and application. Amy uses Transformational Mind-Body Medicine for The ADHD Professional and community and is an Executive Board Member for LIPAC-Long Island Professional ADHD Consortium and a member of Learning And The Brain Society. She is published on The Huffington Post and writes about Life, love, health and wellbeing, education, relationships and the business of being you. She offers complimentary consultations to help you navigate the unavoidable stressors of life and helps you mediate the effects with the latest in neuroscience and helps you find solutions in your epigenome, Your way, Your life. She stands for wholeness in you and all those you touch Call 516.369.3171 or 516.869.3338 to reserve your spot.