In My Opinion

"In My Opinion" are three words that are seldom used today but should be constantly used when discussing "hot" topics. What are hot topics? Politics, religion, race, happiness, etc.? So many of us get into difficult discussions with family, friends and co-workers because of our opinions. When I scroll down my Facebook newsfeed I see pro Trump anti Trump and everything in between! Some of these comments get quite nasty and divisive. I don't engage because I know that I will not change any of the opinions of my Facebook friends nor do I want to. But it is the same problem when I find myself in face to face discussions about "hot" topics. Voices begin to rise, faces tighten, companions seem ready to do battle. So I diffuse such discussions by declaring that my feelings on the set topic is just "my opinion" and of course I could be wrong. That usually calms the waters. And the truth is that it IS just my opinion and yes I might be wrong! It feels good to open my self to that truth and it relieves me of the burden of backing up all my statements with facts! Who wants to work that hard when you are out to relax and socialize! But it seems that everyone is ready and poised for battle!

What is the solution to avoiding these uncomfortable encounters? Well, as they always say: don't discuss religion or politics with people especially if you don't already know where they stand on each topic. But I have found that there are so many topics that people are passionate about and ready to debate that the only "safe" topic left is the weather? No, I have found myself in an argument with a family member as to whether cold was preferable to hot weather! HELP!! So since no topic is guaranteed "safe" I conclude with my original statement. Please remember that everyone has an opinion and it is just as valuable as your opinion. We all form our opinions from our life experiences so there are no right or wrong opinions, just different ones. If you have the time and stamina perhaps you can change people's opinions. Otherwise accept them, hopefully they accept yours and relationships can move forward harmoniously! Alas, I can only hope!