Homosexuality, Divorce: Who are we to Judge?

With all the discussion of rising to a heated level once again, I admit that I’m feeling a bit confused in my own beliefs.

The topic is often a controversial one, especially when you were raised in a conservative Christian home such as I was.

I’ve grown up believing that homosexuality is sinful, and that those who conduct such sin will go to hell. Not only should they deny their feelings and "act like" heterosexuals; they should pursue marriage, have children and live Godly lives.

These beliefs are based on the biblical verse I Cor. 6:9 - 10 which states, "Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived! The sexually immoral, idolaters, adulterers, passive homosexual partners, practicing homosexuals, (10) thieves, the greedy, drunkards, the verbally abusive, and swindlers will not inherit the kingdom of God."

I’ve also been taught not to judge.

Matthew 7:1 says, “Judge not that ye be not judged.”

Therein lies the quandary. Who am I to cast judgment on someone for his sexual preferences? In my mind, it’s what I've grown up to know. In my heart, I feel it’s not right to judge anyone. I'll leave it to God to decide.

It’s taken some time for me to grow out of the closed-mindset of looking down on those who choose to live a different way than I do. I used to fear them and avoid being around them.

But after experiencing different relationships in college and in my career, I began to struggle.

How was judging these people being a good Christian? What example am I setting for my children by casting judgment on someone for his personal choices?

As parents, it’s a fine line for us to teach our morals and beliefs and still maintain a concept of being non-judgmental and accepting.

I know what I’ve been taught about issues like homosexuality, divorce and pre-marital sex. I’ve done my very best to live a life that’s moral and truly do my best to "walk the walk."

But it’s not as simple these days, is it? I see many same-sex couples that love each other deeply and have children for whom they would do anything and everything.

I see divorced couples that are happier, healthier and safer because of their decision for their family. I know it can go both ways, but again, who are we to judge?

So once again I ponder these heavy issues and wonder how I can be a strong and guiding parent to my children without conveying a sense of judgment and a "holier than thou" mentality. 

I guess the best plan is to ask myself as a Christian, "What would Jesus do?" And I believe the answer is be kind and accepting to anyone who crosses my path.

It’s not always easy, is it?