Love Yourself 101: No Drama

The freedom to have peace and prosperity in all aspects of our lives is imperative. 

I say to you that your network is your worth. This blog is not so much love advice but a declaration for human beings to stop allowing insecurity, negativity, doubt, and shame to crowd their judgment. If the tone of my message today sounds harsh, then I ensure you that it comes from a place of love for humanity. As much as I derive enjoyment from the work that I do in helping individuals to celebrate, maintain, and find love, I often find that we allow others to keep us from finding the essence of our happiness. This type of drama is not what I want for a group of people who have such a gifting and purpose to offer society. 

I do realize that the drama that we endure in life, if re-directed over time in the right manner, can make us stronger. Therefore, as a result of the pitfalls of life, we learn lessons about our strength and what shapes our integrity. With that point being made, I digress to offer some clarity on this subject. When you make a strong commitment to align how you choose to relate to your love language with a "higher value" such as true love and peace, the other person who’s in that relationship with you will eventually have to follow suit or match you. If a truly loving relationship ends for whatever reason, there is sadness, healthy grief, and maybe even heartbreak. However, heartbreak may be rooted in illusion, or "disillusionment," the realization, after the fact, that something that we perceived was valid is no longer.

Yes, working through one’s insecurity and the thought of being alone can be difficult to go through, but it is important that when one is in the midst of processing their distress that the people who surround you affirm your spirit.

As a community, we are quick to lend a helping hand/heart, we often don’t realize when it is a valid time to listen rather than speak about the drama in one’s life. 

There is a time and a place for everything under the sun, and only the person who needs love or a helping hand can vocalize the boundaries that they need with help in their life at any given point. We all view our drama and that of others from our perspective. Nevertheless, the point of view that matters the most is the one carrying the burden. Here is a saying from an unknown source that I reflect on daily—“There comes a point in life when you get tired of chasing everyone and trying to fix everything—but it’s not giving up. It’s realizing you don’t need certain people and the drama they bring. Fixing and improving your life is the best example and advice that you can live.”

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