5 Easy Steps To Keep From Being Happy!

1. Consistently compare yourself to others and measure all the ways in which you come up short.

(If you want to be happy, stop comparing yourself to others. We don’t compare apples and orange even though they are both fruits…they are more different than alike and they need very different circumstances to grow and thrive. Everyone has uniquely different body and brain chemistry, histories, internal drives, strengths, weaknesses and opportunities. There is only one You, embrace it and be your best expression of yourself)

2. Pay close attention to any and all self-talk that leaves you feeling bad and totally agree with the conversation.

(People who love and accept themselves, experience negative self-talk. The difference is, they don’t attach to thoughts that make them feel bad. Instead, change the conversation and list 3 positive things about yourself whether its an accomplishments, something positive about your body (are you in good health, for example), how you make a difference in someone else’s life or a strength that you have…shift your focus and notice how much better it feels.

3. Hold a grudge and adamantly refuse to forgive others.

(Withholding forgiveness is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die. When we withhold forgiveness, we are hurting ourselves because it keeps us stuck in the role of victim. Forgiveness is the gift we give ourselves so that we can move forward. It is a common mistake to feel like if we forgive, we are letting the person who hurt us “off the hook”….this is wrong thinking. The other person may not know or even care that you were hurt…everyone is responsible for their own feelings…take charge and find it in your heart to forgive…it’s the best gift you can give yourself.

4. Be a “couch potato” and spend as much time as possible being inactive.

The science has spoken; exercise releases positive “feel good” chemicals in our brains such as Endorphins and Serotonin. You don’t have to run a marathon, just take a brisk walk, jump rope, or get out your Hoola Hoop.

5. Whatever you do, stay focused on yourself and your own pleasure-seeking activities.

(When we are experiencing feelings of stress, anxiety or depression, we are inwardly focused. By focusing on others, it shifts are attention. Happy people take pleasure from making a positive difference in other people’s lives. When we help others, we help ourselves. NOTE~ All helping is not created equal, though Be sure to help people who are willing to help themselves. When we do for others what they can and should be doing for themselves, we are enabling and that doesn’t help anyone.)