Get Over Yourself...Stop Complaining and Make A Change!

Get Over Yourself.....Stop Complaining and    Make A Chang!

·      When You think you are having a bad day, think about someone you know personally, or indirectly, who has suffered a real tragedy…death of a loved one, life-threatening disease or serious trauma…

 All too often when something goes wrong or at least not our way, we instantly feel like life is unfair, we are being punished or we are entitled to have things go differently.   We feel justified in our complaining and getting “ down” about our lives.   I would venture to say, 99% of the time, if we are honest with ourselves, no matter how bad things are right now, there are more things going right than wrong.  Do yourself a favor and focus on what is going right in your life… do you have a job, loved ones, a safe home and your health?  Even if your health isn’t great, if you are being somewhat active and not in debilitating pain, life is at least OKAY right now…focus on that.  By focusing on what is right, you will have a shift in your thinking and feelings and this will create openings in your life for more good to come through.  What you focus on expands so why not expand the good stuff?

·      Take action in an area of your life where you are unhappy…

Complaining can sometimes feel like we are doing something about a situation, but complaining without action only keeps you stuck and feeling powerless.  You don’t have to change things over night; however, sometimes drastic measures are possible or warranted, but you can begin to make changes by intentionally doing things that will make a difference …start a conversation, research your options, make plans that will put you on the path to happiness.  If you aren’t motivated to make a change for your own happiness, consider are you  the kind of person who enjoys being unhappy?   When you are unhappy enough, you will make a change.

·      Let go of your past and embrace today and beyond…

Since no one can change the past, if you are playing the “Blame Game” with your parents, childhood or other people or circumstances, you are setting yourself up to never ever be happy…notice how I said Never Ever!  When YOU keep the past alive and well in your TODAY, you are victimizing yourself. No matter what has happened in your past, someone somewhere lived through worse and went on to create happiness, success and peace in their life and YOU can too!

·      Stop finding fault with everyone and everything else, but yourself…

Consider this, YOU are the consistent presence in all your relationships and experiences and you are the person most empowered to make a change in your life.

If you are unhappy in a personal relationship don’t focus on what the other person needs to do differently instead ask yourself “What can I do differently to make it better?”  If you are unhappy in your job, try focusing on the things about your job that are going well…begin by being thankful you have a job.  Your happiness is your responsibility.

 Most people don’t need a therapist, they just need a change.™ For help managing stress, anxiety & worry, building connections, Increasing your self-esteem and getting Happy…visit Coachmonique.com, email monique@coachmonique.com or call 412-400-2085.

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