It’s time to face reality, and the fact is, the dating tips which were given a while ago have changed over the last couples of years. And by a bit, our Philadelphia matchmakers mean a lot—and by a lot, it means you might no longer have to rely on a man making all the moves on you.
Today, our dating and relationship experts will review the new twists on dating rules—a few rules from the past will still apply, but they’ll have a few modifications. So get ready as our Philadelphia matchmakers review the latest rules of dating.
Picking Up Before the Date
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It’s no longer a necessity for the man to pick the woman up at her house when going on a date. This was largely appropriate at times when a woman used to live at home with her parents and they, of course, wanted to meet and know who she was going out with. In fact, in today’s world, women can now pick up men. But in today’s era of dating, it is best to keep your address as private as possible; after all, you don’t want someone knowing where you live if things don’t go to well on your first date. You never know, because the dating world is full of creepers—especially if you’re embarking on the risky world of online dating, then this rule definitely applies to you—do not share your address. When meeting someone face to face, our Philadelphia matchmakers know it’s always best to choose a place you’re both familiar with, somewhere well populated. Meet him somewhere until you are comfortable with him—that is perfect etiquette for the first few dates.
The He Said, She Said
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Texting, emailing, and social networking are all great methods of communication that should be factored in when dating, but don’t solely rely on these methods of communication because they can lead to misinterpretations. Texting is the thing you do if you want to save time—the same goes for Facebook—but arranging a date should always be done on the phone, not via text messaging or Facebook. Of course the idea is to be open to different modes of communication—go ahead and use them to send flirty conversations, but don’t fret over every single little detail about their online activity.
Being Intimate
The ‘no sex on the first date’ rule will always apply—unless of course you’re looking for just a hookup, but if that is the case, don’t expect a deep and meaningful relationship to develop from your one night escapade. The bottom line is, when you’re ready to take things to the next step you’ll be ready and it should not be on the first date. This one is an old dating rule, yet our Philadelphia matchmakers know it’s still very appropriate. Why? Because it gives you a chance to really get to know each other. Take the first few dates, even weeks or months, getting to know each other on a deeper level because that emotional connection you’ll have will make the sex much better, certainly more meaningful.
Explore Out of Your Comfort Zone
In a city as large as Philadelphia, and with a pool of different cultures, races, and ethnicities, the possibility of expanding your dating pool is huge. But if that’s not the way you work, don’t break away from your core values. The key to having a successful relationship is to have fun while dating—and to find someone with whom you are compatible with in the long run.
In today’s dating world, there is a lot of competition so you will be limiting your choices if you don’t date outside of you comfort zone. This means you can try dating someone outside your race, religion, and ethnic group. You need to know where you’re open and where you’re not, and then work with those openings to explore different people outside of your comfort zone. So if you’re not into dating someone whose values are completely different than yours, then allow yourself to try dating someone with a different lifestyle than you or someone who doesn’t fit your norm. This is especially true about height and weight requirements—let go of all that and explore different options.
Do Opposites Attract? Or Don’t They?
Just because magnets are able to stick to each other doesn’t mean your future date and you will. If you are looking to date someone who you can develop a serious relationship with, then you are going to have to pick a partner who shares similar things as you. This will get rid of any tension in regards to activities, parties, or people you hang out with. Of course, opposites can be fun but only for a short time. But our Philadelphia matchmakers know those partners with less differences will more likely have a successful and happy relationship in the long run.
Dating Outside Your Age
Get rid of that old dating rule that you’re not allowed to date outside your age zone. Men and women nowadays are dating people who are older or younger than them. It is used to be a thing that men only did as they dated younger women, but now women have followed in their footsteps and they too are dating younger men. Dating outside your age zone can keep the relationship fun and exciting. Your experience with them and the way they make you feel should determine the quality of the relationship with them, not a number on their birth certificate.
The Waiting Game
One rule that is done and over with and was buried a long time ago, is the waiting game, and today, our Philadelphia matchmakers have officially declared it dead and gone. No more waiting three days in order to contact your date. The thing is, if you are interested in them, why would you want to wait three days and let them think you’re not interested? If you had an amazing first date, text them the next day and let them know you had a wonderful time with them and you hope you can see them again.
Everything Doesn’t Have to Lead To Marriage
The old stigma no longer exists. Some couples nowadays are opting to have a family, share a life, and live together without ever having to get married. Getting married is one of the most beautiful things in the world, but a long term and satisfying relationship can be equally satisfying and perfectly fitting for many people, so don’t rush out there thinking you must get married.
If you’re tired of dating men who are suited for you, contact our team of Philadelphia matchmakers here at Philadelphia Singles today. Our matchmaking team will only introduce you to quality men who fit your dating expectations. What are you waiting for? Give us a call today!
