Drowning in Technology Part 1

In my last blog I asked the question do we end up drowning ourselves because we want to make the wrong relationship right? One could even ask, make the right relationship wrong?  I’ve been doing a lot of observation on the relationships around me and what I can see is they both are drowning in misery and the key thing missing is communication.

These couples will sit next to each other and hold their iPhones, Androids, flip phones, tablets, laptops in their hands and would rather Facebook, Twitter, text message, or IM other people instead of asking one another about their day. Then you’ll hear a little giggle followed with “did u see so and so’s post on FB… hahaha it was funny.” And then I think to myself if that was me I’d say no, because this whole time I’ve been trying to communicate how I’m doing and you’re too busy toggling your phone instead of toggle sentences back and forth with me… DONE!

How do we get to this point where inanimate objects obtain the power to get our attention more than the person we are with? Does the person we are with lack the intellectual drive, spontaneity, humor, or even the inclination of similar interest we have or are we just intentionally making it hard to communicate because we feel like they should just know how we feel.

When we are constantly saying, “Why do they cry? Why do they ask so many questions? Why don’t they just know?”  From watching the people around I see that sometimes, yes it is easier to not say something and expect the other one to know BUT, and a big BUT, no one is a mind reader. If we are asking these questions we obviously are not listening to the answer that is right in front of our face. We either don’t care, or we care but are just too selfish to acknowledge the other persons need.

With this constant tug of war of communication or the lack of communication we find ourselves lost in the relationship. Constantly wanting to know more, assuming the other is thinking about something they probably aren’t and creating the drowning situation for ourselves. Remember just because there’s a lot of talking doesn’t mean there’s enough depth.  You can talk to someone all day about nothing, trust me I have friends that do that… :D love u guys if you are reading… and still never get to know a thing about that person.

We are who we are by nature but we can definitely adjust to our environment.

On that note I leave you with this poem written by yours truly!

Screaming whispers of blissful pain

Isn’t it insane how the mind works?

Watching blindly as society waits without patience

Like mimes their demonstration makes u feel trapped in a box

Or am i lost in translation?

Seeing through the eyes of wisdom

Cynicism overwhelms you, walks you through hell

A cold burn, now it’s my turn to guide you

Try to show you through meditation is truth and peace

Or are you lost in translation?

Speaking of black and white with no gray

Is trying to say we don’t live in color

Makes you wonder, why cry dry tears

Over fears of separation from the mass who is lost in translation...

Get what I’m saying?