Care for the Caregiver: Dealing with Stress

An act of love, caring for an elderly relative can also be stressful. The US Department of Health and Human Services defines caregiver stress as "the emotional and physical strain of caregiving." Caregiver stress results from the constant effort needed to properly care for an individual with mental or physical illness, and can include things such as frustration or anger, guilt, loneliness, and exhaustion.

While caregiving can have its rewards, the pressure can lead to things like depression and anxiety, and the physical maladies associated with long-term stress such as heart disease, obesity, and diabetes. In addition, caregivers are often so invested in caring for their loved one that they neglect their own health, not taking the time to rest or eat properly, and delaying their own medical care, including cancer screenings and prescription renewals.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, not sleeping properly, exhausted, depressed, or otherwise at the end of your rope, caregiver stress may be a serious problem for you. What can you do?

Seek help. Talk to a doctor or counselor. Don't dismiss your problem, or minimize your own needs. Some hospital and healthcare organizations offer classes to help caregivers to learn the skills needed for their own safety and the safety of the person in their care. Books, support groups, and websites can offer tips for caring for both your loved one and yourself.

Seek help from relatives, including financial help if necessary, and don't allow them to put additional strain on you. For example, if you usually cook Thanksgiving dinner, don't be afraid to speak up and say 'no' this year. If you already have your hands full with caregiving, there is no reason for you to take on the stress of planning a holiday celebration as well. Ask someone else to host this year, offer to bring a simple dish or a bottle of wine, and let yourself hand over responsibility to someone else.

Stay in touch with your friends. Talk on the phone, email, or ask them to stop by for a short visit. Staying connected will help you to stay positive and refreshed. Take time to be alone also. Read a book, go for a walk, see a movie, or go shopping. You need some time to recharge your own batteries.

If you find that you simply cannot adequately care for your loved one and make time for yourself, it is probably time to look into homecare. Homecare offers companionship and a helping hand.

Caregiver stress is not uncommon, but it is not something that you have to deal with alone. Look for resources in your family and in your community, and never be afraid to seek additional care services.

If you or someone you love needs help, please contact us. We want to help.