Bullying in Schools

I teach a study skills class that includes social skills lessons and discussions with students about some of the challenges that teenagers face today.  Bullying is a popular topic, and for some of my students it's a reality. 

What Is Bullying?

When I asked my students to define bullying, the responses included:

• Excessive teasing
• Getting into someone's personal space
• Threatening e-mails or texts
• Being picked on
• Threatening looks

It was agreed that we all encounter episodes when we are teased or when  someone "bugs" us, but when it is persistent and unrelenting by a person or group, then it crosses the line into bullying.

How Does It Feel to Be Bullied?

Students said that when they are bullied, their feelings include anxiety, fear and anger.  One student remarked that after one or two encounters with a bully, he begins to feel nervous every time he has to go class or sees that person on campus. If the bullying is persistent, anxiety turns to anger and then fear.  Once fear kicks in, there is an inability to focus on schoolwork,  and you're preoccupied all day.

Why Do You Think People Bully Others?

From my many years of observation as a teacher, there seems to be a direct correlation between bullying and low self-esteem, poor social skills or a desire to have power over others.  Kids who come from unstable home environments, have emotional problems or have been victims of bullying tend to be the perpetrators. Bullies feel powerful or in control when they put others down.  They win at the expense of someone else. 

How Do You React to a Bully?

The responses to this question were interesting. One student said he would walk away; another said he would get help from an adult. It takes some strategizing and skills to effectively respond to bullying.  If you become angered and reactionary to the bully, the bully wins.  A discussion, such as the one we had in class, gives kids an opportunity to brainstorm ways to handle bullying.  When you know that bullies thrive on your reaction, you can immediately have control over the bully by remaining calm and walking away. Of course, if a bully gets physical, get help.  That's not cowardly, that's smart!

How Can Teachers Help?

Since bullying has become an increasing problem in schools today, teachers are required to report any type of bullying immediately so that school counselors and administrators can respond accordingly.  At the beginning of the year I review classroom policies, and part of these include what I call "negotiables" and "non-negotiables." I will negotiate homework, classwork, seating arrangements, timelines or schedules.  I will not negotiate disrespect or bullying.  Of course, we have to add to that discussion the word "perception."  Why?  Because perception plays an important role in how we react to a bully or how we define one.  Keeping an open dialogue, revisiting classroom policies and reminding students that bullying is not tolerated helps maintain a safe environment for my students and reduces the potential for bullying in class.