RivCo Residents Share Father's Day 'Bits Of Wisdom' They Learned From Dear Ole' Dad

RIVERSIDE COUNTY, CA — Ahead of Father's Day 2022 on Sunday, Patch readers from around the Riverside County area shared the best words of advice that they learned from their fathers.

Patch asked on Facebook, "Father's Day is coming up and we want to know: What's the best advice your dad ever gave you?"

Readers from the Pass Area to the desert communities and across Southwest Riverside County recalled words of wisdom they remember from their fathers, and now we are passing that on to you.

Pass Area Reader Susie Ward's father grew up during the depression and survived World War II, she tells us. Her father used to say, "If this is the worse things get, we're doing pretty good."

Marcella Hinojosa tells us her father's memorable saying:

"You need to forgive those that hurt you, if not, you're just blocking from receiving your blessings."

Dave Fishman wishes he would have listened to his father more. "What I would do for that advice now," he wrote, adding, "I miss you, Michael Fishman."

Reader Linda Bedford reminisced about her father who taught her that actions meant more than just words.

"It wasn't what he said, it was how he lived. He broke his neck at age 21 and was partially paralyzed. He persevered through pain, raised 7 children, and loved my mom with everything he had," she wrote. "We learned to see people as people, no matter how different they were from us. And we learned that we are tougher than we ever thought we could be. Thank you, Daddy."

Read all of the Banning and Beaumont Father's Day Posts here.

From Murrieta, Lake Elsinore and Temecula areas, you answered. with responses that ranged from heartstring-tugging to bittersweet.

Murrieta resident Neil NePote tells us his father's take on wisdom.

"Wisdom is understanding things you can change, and those you can't, and knowing the difference," he wrote.

"Always drive on the offense," Murrieta reader Cassandra Shelley said, adding that "His words were a huge impact. I'm always aware and ready for anything."

Carolyn Gordon of Murrieta shared this little story about when her father - a long-haul trucker, taught her how to drive on an interstate highway through Georgia on their way to Florida, back in the day.

"It was Christmas break," she said. "He trusted me so much he fell asleep. He taught me well."

Debbie Rumpel was reminded of a sage bit of wisdom she learned from her dad, "That you are responsible for your own happiness," she wrote. "Do not look for someone to make you happy!"

Read more Father's Day messages on Patch Murrieta's Facebook Page.

Lake Elsinore reader Shelly Turley recalled this bit of sage advice.

"Change the oil," she wrote in answer to Patch's question. "And don't speed."

One reader in Temecula had this to say about dad's memorable wisdom.

"You marry what you hang out with." wrote Laura Mankins. "Good guy or terrible guy, rich or poor, druggy or clean, you will marry (or date) who you spend time and hang out with."

Temecula reader Lori Stephenson shared this anecdote from dear ole' dad.

"When I graduated high school in 1983, my dad who had farmed all his life told me to get into computers! 'They are the way of the future!' He died in 1985, boy was he spot on!"

Lisa Alvarez shared this bit of wisdom from her father, who told her: "Be kind to everyone even though they might not be kind to you."

Read more Father's Day messages on Temecula Patch's Facebook Page.

Father's day this year is tough for Southwest Riverside County reader Michelle Nalaboff.

"My father recently passed away so this question is very tough for me," she wrote in answer to our question. "He had amazing advice for all kinds of situations but one of the best pearls of wisdom he shared was about making decisions. Basically, you narrow it down to two options, then you toss a coin. Your gut reaction to how it lands will tell you what to do. If you feel disappointed, then you know that the other option is the one for you. If you are relieved or satisfied, then that option is the best."

Whatever you remember, one thing remains clear: the effect that fathers have on their children rings long in the memory.

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Happy Father's Day to all from Patch!