Relationships

The most common use of the word relationship is in connection with people. But at the heart of how you handle any kind of relationship, is your relationship with yourself.

What is your relationship like with yourself? Can you look into your eyes in a mirror and say “I love you” to the image you see? Do you feel it with all your heart? If not, what comes up for you? Do you hear voices saying things like, “No I don’t. I’m too fat. I’m too skinny. I’m old and grey. I’m stupid. I don’t have any friends. Nobody cares about me. I should be in a relationship. I should be making more money. I should eat healthier. I should have more friends. I should be prettier. I should be smarter. I should lose weight…”

Listen to what comes up when you try to tell yourself this simple phrase. All of these are judgments. A good way to start coming up with your personal list of judgments is to start writing the phrase “I should…” down the left margin of the paper and fill in the blank. When you can let go of your “should” “list and simply be happy, you can make new choices based on love and acceptance for yourself. I choose to lose weight because it makes me happy to be healthier.” “I choose to stay the same weight as I am because I am choosing to focus my attention on other things.” I once made a list of all my “should’s” on strips of paper and burned my “should” pile, just like a wood pile.

When you can turn all of your judgments into choices, then you can have a happy relationship with yourself, with others, with money, with food, and with everything in else in your life. If you need more support in happy relationships, come to one of the great Flock Nights this month, schedule a session with one of our practitioners, or come to one of our other classes. Songbird is here to help.

Interested in learning more about Songbird Community Healing Center? We are located at 8297 Old Redwood Hwy, Cotati, CA 94931. Phone: (707) 795-2398.

Visit us on the web at songbirdcenter.org

Jasmine Gold is the director of Songbird Community Healing Center. She is a Toltec Mentor, certified Four Agreements Facilitator, and Reiki Master. She has spent her adult life gradually awakening to Spirit and the truth of who she is. Her process of transformation continues to this day in an ongoing dance of discovery. Her traditional education includes BA’s in Linguistics and Classical Languages at UC Berkeley. While there, she started developing a fascination with studying personality types.

Her non-traditional Toltec education started ten years ago with local teacher Allan Hardman. It includes a three-year intensive spiritual training program with don Miguel Ruiz (author of the Four Agreements) and Barbara Emrys. She has taken six power journeys to Teotihuacan, Mexico and one to Peru. She was drawn to the Toltec work because it has a strong focus both on letting go of limiting beliefs and on living our lives from a place of unconditional love and acceptance. Some of her other teachers include David Deida, Sahn Kai, and her teenage son Julian. Her passion is to share information and support growth for all through community, connection, and creativity.

Besides Reiki, Jasmine has explored many other healing arts. Her love of community building and research prompted her to start the Hands of Gold Healing Clinic in her living room in Cotati. After running it there for five years, she moved it to the Songbird Center when it opened. The clinic provides a fun and casual community for people to explore and receive different types of healing. Besides the Healing Clinic, Jasmine offers small classes, in-person private sessions, and phone sessions. These are tailored to individual needs and can include visualization, discussion, recapitulation breathing, hands-on energy healing, and/or tools based on the Toltec teachings of don Miguel Ruiz.