Anger is contagious. Yell at someone or give them a nasty look and you’ll likely get something unpleasant in return. People’s egos love to pour fuel on a fire, and reacting negatively to another’s agitation is a sure-fire way to create a double-barreled escalation.
The good thing is, the reverse is also true. Expressions of happiness are also infectious. And because they come from our truer nature, they have more lasting power and wholesome results.
Smiles can be a great learning tool. Children use smiles naturally, while teens and adults are more hesitant. Smiles are important. They reflect our better side and are worthy of appreciation and understanding.
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This is a homework assignment I gave to a class of teenagers. Give it a try.
Today, after school (or work), smile at someone you don’t know and see what happens. The smile has to be authentic, and don’t smile at just anyone or everyone. Be selective. Let your intuition be your guide. After you smile, see if it is returned. Note if the person continues smiling after you move on. Do they then smile at someone else? Are they walking lighter? If the person ignores you, that’s all right too. Learn from it. Try someone else.
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Studies have shown that smiles are actually more contagious than anger. Have you ever been smiled at by a stranger and noticed that it made your whole morning a little brighter? It’s a great way to pass on a little joy---and we all can use more of that.
Ron Veronda is a life-long educator working to create a healthier, wiser and less violent world. If you wish, visit one of his websites: www.educationforyourlife.org and www.educationforyourlife.org/blog.
