Is what you are doing with your child(ren) effective long-term?

There are four criteria for effective Positive Discipline:

1.  Is it kind  and firm at the same time?

2.  Does it help children feel a sense of belonging and significance?

3.  Is it effective long-term?

4.  Does it teach valuable social and life skills for good character?

This week, we'll look at the third criteria.

Is it effective long-term?

One of the primary reasons parents and teachers continue to use punishment is that it works - in the short term.  Punishment usually stops the child's misbehavior, for the moment.  The problem is that most adults do not understand the long-term impact of punishment.  Children are not thinking, "oh thank you for punishing me.  I will certainly be open and honest with you when I make a mistake in the future."  Instead, they are thinking about rebelling as soon as they can, or complying with your wishes, which compromises their self esteem.

Another reason adults use punishment is that they feel the only alternative to punishment is permissiveness.  Punishment is easier, and works quickly.  It takes effort and skills to learn and use effective discipline. 

There are other alternatives that are effective long-term, which you can learn through the Positive Discipline classes.  Come find out more at one of our upcoming free introductory sessions - Tuesday November 12 10AM-noon, or Tuesday November 19 7-9PM - email marianne.seeber@positivedisciplinewesternct.org to pre-register.

 And check out our upcoming class schedule at www.positivedisciplinewesternct.org

Positive Discipline of Western CT promotes and encourages the development of life skills and respectful relationships in families, schools, and businesses in our local communities. We will provide classes to parents, caregivers, educators, and youth development workers, teaching how to raise a child using Positive Discipline skills.