7 Tips: How to bond with your teen son.

Give your teenager a high five.

This basically means to offer your son some kind of physical touch. Everyday do something in the form of a high five, fist bump, a squeeze of the hand, hug, pat on the back, or a kiss goodbye when he goes to school or work.

Have fun.

This is an easy one. Joke around, shoot some hoops, go to the mall, read, listen to music, and play Xbox. Be creative and enjoy!

Talk in the car.

You might have more success doing something while talking with you teen. For example driving; while driving him to school or practice ask questions. See how it works out. Keep in mind, asking open ended questions are better!

Be present.

This can be hard for you and your son. Try to have moments with no phone distractions or multi-tasking. Try to be fully in the moment, carefree, and available.

Sharpen your “asking” skills.

One of the reasons teens don’t want to talk to parents is because of those annoying parental questions about homework, college applications, grades, teachers, cleaning the room, etc.

It’s a better idea to create a “pressure free zone”, meaning to leave those questions for another moment. A “pressure free zone” can help you uncover your teen’s deepest experiences and feelings they haven’t told you. It can give you the answers you’re looking for.

Write your teen a letter or email.

Some people do better talking about feelings when they write them down first. For example:

“Hey Jake, I’m realizing we’re both very busy and get caught up in our busy schedules. I feel like I’m missing out on being with you. I would love to find a way to get together and just hang out, relax, watch TV or catch a baseball game, or whatever you felt like doing to unwind and have fun. I would definitely enjoy it. No pressure; just wanted to let you know.” Love you.

Time and acceptance.

These are two things a lot of young people want and need most from their parents. In return, parents receive the gift of knowing and enjoying their teens more. The bond between parent and son will be stronger.

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