Why does my son swear at me?

Hey Everyone, here is another email from a mother who needs some help on setting some boundaries with her son. Responses are below. Also, please feel free to comment and give us your feedback!

Email from mother:

How does a mother deal with a teenage son who has no respect for women? His father is not a good person. He has a narcissistic personality disorder who ran off with a drug addicted stripper less than half his age. His father also says, “The Bible states that women were put here to honor and obey men.” This is crazy and I feel like I can’t do anything about this.

My son is also verbally abusive towards me whenever he disagrees with me or refuses to do simple things like pick up his shoes from the middle of the kitchen floor. After making a few attempts, he calls me an “asshole” and says “fuck you bitch!” He never apologizes or feels any remorse. My son treats me like dirt, just like his father did.

How do I undo what his father has taught him? I love my son but I’m counting the days until he turns 18 so I can kick him out. He already has said he would commit suicide if I forced him to live with his father. He’ll be 17 in March 2015.

Please give me some suggestions to work with.

Thank you.

Response from Teenage Sons:

The question you ask is an interesting and complicated question because for a lot of parents disrespect is one of the things which can be extremely frustrating for them. You probably feel like you’ve risen him better and you don’t deserve so much angst.

I think it’s obvious he has a lot of anger built up inside and I think a lot of it might stem from the family situation and from his father. From what you’re telling me, his father isn’t the best person to be around and isn’t a positive influence at all. I don’t recommend sending him to his father’s house which might make things...

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