By Carol Dores
We all think that we listen to what other people have to say. But do we really listen? Or are we listening to decide if we agree, and how to respond? Are we busy thinking about the things that we need to do? Are we wondering when the other person will be done with what they are saying?
Our children notice when we really listen. And when we don’t.
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What does true listening look like and sound like? Here are some ideas:
· Focus on what the other person is saying. Clear your mind of everything else. Really pay attention to what they are saying. When thoughts come in to your mind, send them away, and refocus.
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· Listen for understanding. When they are done, try to paraphrase your understanding of what they said. “What I heard you say is….”. You can then ask them if you have understood what they were saying. Be open to the possibility that there will be misunderstanding, and ask them to explain again the parts that you didn’t seem to get.
· Show them you are listening. Nonverbal cues are important. Nod your head. Maintain eye contact. Lean forward as you are listening.
Why is it important that we really listen?
Think about how it feels to really be listened to. Are you more willing to go back and have future conversations with someone who really listened? Our children can learn how to be good listeners if we show them how, by being good listeners ourselves. They are also more likely to share more with us when we are open and listen.
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