Have You Hugged Your Child Today?

As we mark one year since the horrific tragedy in Newton, I urge parents to embrace their children.  In this fast-paced, hectic world it is all too easy to lose sight of what is truly important.  Let Newtown remind parents to cherish their time with their children, and to focus on building a strong relationship with them grounded on support and understand.

Children have an uncanny ability to take on the image their parents have of them.  For example, if you think that your child is lazy, he or she is apt to feel and act that way.  If you don't believe in your children, your children won't believe in themselves.

Parents push their children to excel; they criticize them in the hopes of helping them.  When you encourage your child, do so lovingly and in a way that instills confidence.  Stop harping on the small stuff.  Does it really matter if your teen's room is messy or if he or she does not do well on an exam?  Too much focus on the negative just makes your child feel badly and strains your relationship.

Instead, believe in your children.  Make sure they know that when they fall short of your expectations, you are still there to support them.  Focus on all the positive things your children do, and let some of the negative stuff slide.

Treasure your time with your children.  Never take them for granted.

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