“I hate my teen son’s behavior.” A few solutions for parents.

“My 18 year old son has an attitude like he’s a king! He is so DISRESPECTFUL and hard to deal with. The answer is always NO when you tell him to do something. We only talk when we  argue.  Soooo frustrated!!!!”

Let’s be real. Parenting a teen boy isn’t going to be easy and no one is exempt from teen behavior problems. If you’re thinking your son won’t talk back, always come home on time, won’t be interested in sex, or make any mistakes then you’re setting yourself up for a big shock!

Teenagers are basically hard-wired to butt heads with their parents, says Stuart Goldman, MD, director of psychiatric education at Children's Hospital in Boston. "Adolescence is a time of rapid change for kids both physically and cognitively," he explains. "It's the task of the teenager to fire their parents and then re-hire them years later, but as consultants rather than managers."

But, that doesn't mean you have be walked all over. With the right approach, you can change the way your son behaves.  

 

Behavior Problem # 1 – Arguing with your son.

Obviously something isn’t working if the only communication between you and your son is arguing. If arguing gets really out of hand, it can become emotionally damaging for both parent and son.

Solution

I think what two people want when they argue is for the other person to understand them.

So, find out what your teen is actually struggling with. There might be a layer than needs to be peeled off before actually finding to why your son is really upset. An argument is possibly his way of dealing with something that is bothering him. So, when he starts to become agitated tell yourself this might not be about me but something he is going through. As soon as you realize the conversation is going off-course, stop, listen and be compassionate. It’s a good idea to him talk it out.

Ultimately, try to help your son calm down, and most of all ....

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