Judging My Choices, Won't Change Yours!

I heard this on a TV show this past week: "Judging my choices won't change yours." So, just what does that mean?

I thought there may be different ways to read into that statement, depending on the situation. At times I may experience a feeling of being judged by someone who does not ask why I made a choice, yet they may freely judge that choice, telling me I'm wrong. In that case I wish i would be given a chance to explain how my boundaries, or beliefs form my choice, then maybe I could influence change.  If you're too busy judging my choices, your mind might not be open to change.

My last blog was about Facebook and Social Media. Folks are free to choose what they "Like" and "comment" on, showing their beliefs, principals and opinions. Pages and profiles often post current events, opinions follow in comments.

Let me just say:

I'm thankful a lot of my time is spent with our animals on the ranch. They may all have personalities, but I don't see judgment. They may not like our choices, and they let us know, but its without judgment. Actually it's with out much emotion, yet it can be clear communication. Make sense?

I know that animals don't necessarily judge our choices. Our dogs surely don't!  If I don't greet my dog when I walk in the door because I'm grumpy, wet from the rain, struggling with bags of groceries, muttering under my breath and slipping on wet tile, he still wags his tail and is happy to see me.

Horses are a prey animal in spite of their size. When I try to explain herd behavior to some folks who come to the ranch and visit they are surprised to learn that horses are prey animals.

This week when Duece wasn't sure what we were trying to communicate to him, did his flight mentality take over, or did he judge our choice of training to be just too scary for him? No, he just asked us to go a bit slower, reassure him.

Lesson for me, go slower, reassure myself and I too can be less scared! Oh, and others judgments don't have to influence my choices! How about you?