Dating Over 40 "Dreams & Fantasies"

By: Kenneth Stepp
What does your future look like? I know. It isn’t here yet. Mine isn’t either. But, I do dream about what it might look like. I guess by virtue of it being a dream, it can be called a fantasy as well. Maybe for me it’s simply fun to think of.
My dream involves a mate, a girl that will get into trouble with me. A partner in crime, so to speak. I see fun in my future. We would always have one another’s back. Be impulsive and playful. And have impromptu adventures. This is what I dream of. A fellow explorer. I enjoy new knowledge. I believe most people do. I search that out through my “Exploring”. Hopefully, she would too. In my dreams she does.
“All our dreams come true, if we have the courage to pursue them” - Walt Disney
I believe Brother Walt was on to something there. Who else is more qualified than him to make that statement? None, in my opinion. How does one go after a dream? I keep it fresh every day. I have my mind on it and add layers to it every day. This is part of the way I pursue my dream. My fantasy girl is amazing. The real thing will be even more amazing. “Amazing-er” I suppose. 
One day I would like to have a fairly carefree minimalist lifestyle. In other words. Live in a miro-home. It’s like a freestanding efficiency. Very private, costs less that $50.00 per month to heat & cool, is low to no maintenance, and  I can build it in the woods for about $30,000.00. No yard, just trees. This way, we can take off at the drop of a hat and explore. Travel can be expensive. For this reason a minimalist lifestyle works better. Priorities are set. Big set lifestyle. Means staying home and maintaining it. Minimalist lifestyle means. We run our lives. Our lifestyle does not.
My fantasy involves enjoying life, not enduring it. Everything paid for, and travel as much as possible. Finding new adventures would be the wonderment of life. Having someone by my side while exploring, would be the fulfillment of my fantasy. But only if she was as into it as myself. I suspect the girl I would want to partner with would be. This may even be a “dealbreaker”. 
“It’s the game of life. Do I win or do I lose? One day they’re going to shut the game down. I gotta have as much fun and go around the board as many times as I can” - Tupac Shakur
Dreams & fantasies are what keeps many of us going. Why would someone without a dollar to spare buy a lottery ticket every week? Hope. They pay a dollar for the dream. Worth it, in my opinion. I am new to the lottery. It is confusing the first time you play it. Then it becomes pretty easy to figure out. I pay for that dream as well. Fun for a dollar. Great value. Dreaming the dream and hoping it all falls into place is part of being single over 40. Hope is powerful. Hope is toxic when dashed. I can attest to both. My rebound relationship taught me this. Every so often, after we split up, I would get that message. “You want to meet in Atlanta”? I always said yes, I always had hope, I always had my overnight bag packed in the back of my truck. Hope eventually was dashed. The pain was worse each time. It’s nice not to be going through that cycle any longer. 
Close your eyes. See your partner. Stand on the edge of that cliff with them. Imagine what you are doing right at that moment. Breath in like it’s your last breathe. Now…… Jump.
k@kstepp.comFounder, American Angel Works