Single Again "Lonely Me"

By: Kenneth Stepp

“Are you lonesome tonight?” Elvis asked the right question. There are many people lonely. I know. Not only am I one of them. I know many more. Some, don’t even know they are. Hard to believe. But true. I have witnessed it and lived it. I live it today. Why else would I be filling my days exploring historic towns alone? Because something is missing in my life.

I was reminded of this today. I have thought it through many times. I replace the voids in my life with solo explorations. I know girls that search for nightclubs, bands, events, and happenings to do alone. This because they believe staying busy will take the place of something. Wake up people. We are wired to partner. Going out is fun. Or, it can be. But, the quiet of the night afterwards can be tough. Going home with a stranger ends even tougher.

Everyone makes decisions about loneliness. It has to be dealt with. Married or not. Yes. I hear from many girls that are married. Many just want advice on how to “fix” their marriage. Some, wants to scratch an itch that isn’t being scratched at home. Some even want me to talk with their husband. Uncomfortable. But, I have actually met with several couples. I have no boundaries or lines to stay in. It isn’t uncomfortable a bit. I have some great stories that have come out of these meetings.

How do you handle loneliness? We all experience it. I do daily. How often does yours show up? Mine is always there at some level. How about yours? Do you fill your life with things that involve only you? Have you stopped to think why? Is it a time filler? I do it too. I want to find my forever. There. I admit it. I want to open my heart one more time. Risk getting body slammed emotionally. And find “her”. I believe I am being more honest than most by that confession.

The battle against loneliness rages on. The only singles that are not affected by it. Are lying. Maybe even to themselves. Loneliness is an epidemic of the heart. Instead of giving into it. Embrace your natural calling to partner. Perhaps you aren’t ready. But, don’t discount the value of it. Wait. The time will be right.

The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved” - Mother Teresa

Mother Teresa may be my favorite persons. I just get her. She gave all. It didn’t matter if it was enough or not. If you have never given all, only to have it rejected. You can’t know what that means. This crosses spiritual lines. It motivates more than just the heart. Although that is in fact where we feel it most. Combat loneliness with honesty. Does that sound crazy? I got honest with myself about my loneliness. It was from knowing love, partnering, and that bond. For me. I can get lost in my dream girls eyes. What about you? Are you lonely?

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